Debating whether to tell my best friend about my surgery tomorrow

[Tisa 52]

Tomorrow I'm going to meet up with my best friend at the mall. I'm having surgery on monday and i don't know if i should tell her about it or not. She doesn't have any weight problems so she wouldn't understand the struggle, and I've never talked to her about my weight issues before. I mean I just don't know how she'll react.

I don't feel right hiding it from her, she's my best friend. At the same time I don't know what she'd say. I think I will. I don't know. What kind of reactions have you guys gotten from your skinny friends about WLS?

Edited July 26, 2014 by Tisa

[BeagleLover 1,020]

How other people reacted to others is really irrelevant. Tell her... after some initial shock, she'll either like what she hears or not. Even that is irrelevant. Tell her how much of a struggle life has been for you with your weight. You've made the best effective choice for yourself so you can be healthy.

Also, what if you DON'T tell her?! What are you going to do then if you, her best friend, kept such a big secret from her? That might be very damaging to your friendship.

[ElectricBoogaloo 337]

I didn't tell my best friend and was just mentioning to my husband how weird it feels with her not knowing. Only my husband, daughter (adolescent), and a fairly new friend couple (one had rny, other having it in August) know. I haven't told my family either. While it is weird that she doesn't know, it works for me right now. She is not overweight and never sees me as overweight, either, so it would have been a struggle that I wasn't up for. (I do carry my weight well). At this time I never plan on telling anyone, although from reading others experiences here, I might.

It is a hard decision who to share this experience with. Try to weigh the pros/cons on the effect it might have on your relationship with your best friend.

[LadyPullings 94]

I only told the closest people in my life! My hubby & my 3 best friends that I've known since grade school! No one really said much!

[Bufflehead 6,358]

I told my immediate family and three closest friends about a week before surgery. Mostly I didn't want them to be completely unaware of my surgery if something awful were to happen! All three of my closest friends and most of my family are normal, healthy weight and we had never talked about my weight issues. Everyone was completely supportive and on board. I am sorry to say that as I have told more people after surgery, the very few negative reactions I have gotten have been from overweight people. The thin people have been, unanimously, completely kind, understanding, and supportive.