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I have went through everything he has requested me to do.. He had me visit psych, I did that for a month and a half and the psych doctor approved me for surgery. He had me meet with several people over the last year to get things ready for surgery. I even have been doing calls with health partners for coaching..... His concern is that surgery will mess with my mental health..... I feel like in all reality it will help my mental health. I feel so discouraged that I did everything I was asked to do just to be rejected my my own surgeon. I have a seminar to go to at a different hospital in the cities area on Tuesday at 6pm..... Wish me luck!!

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There you go girl.......Keep going forward. If your psych eval came out well like you said then carry that with you. Being banded is great so I am here for you. I agree about going to the next surgeon. I did not have to take any psych eval. Every doctor is different so you keep going until you find one that supports you. I was only 187 when I started and at my support groups other members have said mean things like, "what are you doing here?" I am here and had surgery because my BMI stated I needed it. We learn to ignore that mean comments and just knowing that her comment is really about 'her' projecting and having nothing to do with me or my situation. The band curbs hunger and it works. I am supporting you and encouraging you to keep trying different doctors until you find one that will do the surgery and one that has a good aftercare program for your support. When I was first banded I was discriminated against and went to about 5 doctors before I found one to do the surgery. I kept at it until I succeeded because living fat with a food addiction and missing out on life was a huge motivator for me to get a band which has proven over and over to work. I drove over three hours to Houston to get my first band. That is how important is was to me and how important it needs to be with you.

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Wow! That's messed up. I'm glad you were able to find another hospital. Blessing being sent your way.

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"Mess with your health" in what specific way? Has he explained himself? Do you have history of mental health issues? I hope you can use all the loops he put you through with a new surgeon. Good luck!

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Keep pushing forward!!! Best of luck!

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Thanks everyone for the support! I was able to go to the seminar on the 29th and I already have my first appt with the nurse at unity hospital at 3 o'clock today. This happened really fast for me!! I'm so excited but I keep hearing bad reviews about the lap band so I'm thinking about doing the sleeve instead....... We will see.... I need my new surgeons advice now, since he actually seems like he cares.

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That's wonderful news! Keep us posted.

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Good luck to you and way to be proactive! Physical and emotional health are so connected. I feel much better about myself and life in general since getting that appetite monster off my back and taking control of my health. Sending you best wishes. Know that there is no "better" surgery but different choices for each of us. The real key is putting yourself first and complying with the protocol your surgeon gives you. You will do great!

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I went and saw the nurse today and I got everything set up for what I need to do next most of my paperwork has been transferred to unity and then all I need to do is make the appointment get the approval and get a second opinion from the surgeon and doctor :) they put me on Vitamins already

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That's great news! Happy for you!

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