Death and sadness.

[gowalking 10,790]

Deepest sympathies to all who have suffered the loss of loved ones.

[Julie norton 2,850]

In 2007, my 46 yr old husband of 19 yr passed away suddenly (a perforated colon). I was devastated. Thought I'd never again be happy. It's now 7 yrs later, I've been remarried for almost 3 yrs. It took a good 3 yrs before I was even ready to start dating again. Losing 70 lbs definitely helped with my self esteem. I can't believe how happy I am right now. I was so depressed that I spent 2 weeks in the psych hospital while they worked out my meds, fearing that I would harm myself... Everyone has a sad story I guess. I can't believe all the stories I've read here today. Sad ((HUGS))

How do you get through the sadness and longing everyday? Having my adult kids visit is good. And therapy. But the missing. And the daily tears

Just sad

[Julie norton 2,850]

In 2007, my 46 yr old husband of 19 yr passed away suddenly (a perforated colon). I was devastated. Thought I'd never again be happy. It's now 7 yrs later, I've been remarried for almost 3 yrs. It took a good 3 yrs before I was even ready to start dating again. Losing 70 lbs definitely helped with my self esteem. I can't believe how happy I am right now. I was so depressed that I spent 2 weeks in the psych hospital while they worked out my meds, fearing that I would harm myself... Everyone has a sad story I guess. I can't believe all the stories I've read here today. Sad ((HUGS))

How do you get through the sadness and longing everyday? Having my adult kids visit is good. And therapy. But the missing. And the daily tears

Just sad

20+years of a great fun marriage gone in 5 weeksFrom first dr visit to death. 2 months and I just still can hardly belie bit daily

[LindafromFlorida 1,542]

God Bless.

[MisPetunia 21]

To Linda and others who have suffered a loss: I can only hope that you have other loved ones who can comfort you, hold you, and listen to you. I find that connecting with nature and a higher power gets me through a day at a time....sometimes a few minutes at a time.

[aroundhky 1,174]

Sorry to hear Linda, but maybe venting and telling about it a little is part of the healing process. I wish you the best in recovery.

I went through a one and a half year period several years ago (2007/2008) that was very trying and painful as well. During that period I went through a divorce, sick for 4 straight months which ended in having my tonsils removed at my advanced age, lost my oldest brother and best friend to brain cancer, shortly after that my mother died and then I lost my job.....just a week before Christmas. My family was very close and all of a sudden family life as I knew it was ripped apart. I never resorted to drugs or being an alcoholic, but I did some serious emotional eating and regained all of the weight I had lost prior to that crazy year and a half. I love life and this whole journey thing, but AT TIMES.....life can just plain suck. I just look at my life as that roller coaster ride, most of the turns are good and there are more ups than downs for my life, so I am thankful for that.

[kyrickchick64 468]

I haven't had my surgery yet (90 insurance diet :/ but losing some of the most important people in my life has gotten me to this weight and now sparks me to lose it. My mom died the day before my son was supposed to come into this world 21 years ago this month. I was 91/2 month pregnant and my sweet boy decided that he wasn't coming so my dr scheduled a C section. My mom was in the hospital with a blood clot(which the hospital said she would recover from. She had had a radical hysterectomy from cancer and was almost to 5 yrs when she has a breast removed. She did fine but developed the clot. I called her (i lived 1500 miles away) to tell her that the grandson would be delivered the next day. She said oh your sister is having her baby tomorrow too. We talked awhile and she said she was tired and lunch was just delivered(for some reason they had her out of bed with no compression on her legs.) We hung up(I at least got to tell her I loved her) She got out of the chair and collapsed and died before they could get the crash cart to her. She was 68. We drove to Ny from Florida and my father and brothers were wrecked and my sister was still in the hospital because she had to have her C section due to issues she was having. Especially with the stress of losing my mom. So that left me to run everything. I did and when I got home my son was born the next day by C section. Between the grief and post partum, I gained 90 lbs I still am bawling now as I write this. My best guy friend died a slow agonizing death from AIDS 3 months later. My father died 4 yrs later because he refused to see a doctor after what happened with my mom. I lost my favorite aunt 3 yrs later. I tried to lose the weight but never was successful. Fast forward to the last 3 yrs. I lost my job then my mother in law was diagnosed brain cancer, I was her live in caretaker. Finding out she knew something was going on but hid it. She died 6 weeks after diagnosis. During that time my husband was going to lose his job if we didn't relocate so 3 weeks after she passed we moved to Ky. At the same time my big brother was having issues after getting his knees replaced. He went into a coma for over a month and was in and out the hospital for this unknown illness till he passed away this past February. Again me back to Ny to run everything because his fiancee isnt well and couldn't take care of it (especially with the drama queen relatives we have) I was away from my family for 7 weeks taking care of his affairs. He was 62 and am amazing brother and citizen of our hometown that they named a county road for him... I realized that I haven't been living my life and I didn't want to die in my 60s. I want to see my grand children hopefully my son will cooperate. I know anything can happen and there's no guarantees but one... if I don't lose this weight I WILL die. At least losing will give me a fighting chance. And I'm gonna have a good time doing it. I'm sorry this was so long but it's how I got here. I will fight tooth and nail

[LindafromFlorida 1,542]

Aroundhky and jyrickchick64, thank you for sharing your stories with us. Sometimes it just helps to tell the story, and I know it makes us all stop and remember that we are real people here, with real stories, of every nature. Be kind to everyone, you do not know their story until you take the time to ask and listen. God Bless. Lose the weight and live longer. Cheers to good health and better days.

[Julie norton 2,850]

Kyrickchick. You have been through so much! What a rough patch that life had you on. I so hope you can get what you want. And that includes your desire for WLS. I think it can change your life. And it sounds as if things have to get better

Thanks for helping me with this new widowhood. I truly underestimated grief. I had lost my dear mom years ago. But never could understand this depth. Sending caring thoughts

[kyrickchick64 468]

Thank you guys. I told myself when I wrote it I wasn't gonna write a novel but it turned out that way anyway. Even tho I've been thru the ringer I try to look at the bright side on stuff. My loved ones spirits are free and there is no more pain. But I'm gonna do my best to enjoy my life and be healthy. I am thankful for my husband, son and friends and my new friends on here. Thank you to you all.