Annoyed

[clownbaby 3]

Have been banded for just over 3 months and have lost about 35 pounds. I am happy with my progress so far and I understand that my weight loss will be slow. I'm annoyed because my mom keeps telling people I have lost 45-50 pounds because she feels I should be losing weight faster. I keep reminding her that slow weight loss is long term healthy weight loss and I won't be skinny overnight. It's also annoying because when I tell people how much weight I have really lost it just doesn't seem as impressive. Sorry for the rant but it is just annoying!

[bulawookie 116]

Wow 35 pounds in 3 months is fantastic. Try to ignore your mothers comments. You are right that taking the weight off slower is more lasting. We with WLS have to develop a thick skin. Family members can hurt us the worst because they know where we are vulnerable. You are doing great so just keep up the good work. 35 pounds is inspiring to me!!

[Kitt3000 757]

You are doing really well! My first response was omg! You must be embarrassed for your mom? It's time to have a heart to heart and let her know how hurtful this is. Bottom line is it's no one business unless YOU decide to share it! Big hugs! I'm so sorry...

[lisacaron 5,075]

@@clownbaby you are doing AWESOME! Don't let your Mom or anyone else discourage you! You have all the right answers. You didn't gain it over night and it won't go away overnight. I won't just vanish in the night, WLS doesn't come with a fairy godmother who can wave her wand and turn us into Victoria Secrets models strutting the runway of NYC in nothing but our wings and bra's. (actually sounds like a bit of nightmare to me and I'm not shy!)

Being banded your 100% right you are going to lose the weight slowly, you have to do the work right up front from day one with the band. With many of the other surgeries the weight comes off from day due to the mal-absorptive factors in the surgery and then it's really hard for the person to maintain and/or keep losing after a few months when the body adapts to the new regime.

Your body type and your genetics as well as overall health are going to play a big part in how you lose as well. These bodies we have are pretty amazing at overcoming and adapting to what we throw at them and into them! Keep doing what your doing cause it's working great.

Have your Mom attend a support group with you so she can get more education and understanding about what your going through and be an even better support for you. I'm sure you know your Mom means well, we all do...we just don't always approach our children in the best way

I have 5 boys...and it's a bit of a river dance to talk to them all on their level and not get my head bitten off!

[clownbaby 3]

Thank you guys so much for the kind words. I know she is just excited about my weight loss and she does mean well but she still doesn't understand where I'm coming from. Thank you for your input and advice, I feel much better and less annoyed!

[Kathytej 134]

Like you, I was very open to tell everyone I did the surgery and I felt I had to prove to them that I had lost the weight until I realized that it is not their business how much you loose in how long, so I've started telling everyone who asked me how much I had lost "a lot, I feel so healthy, so active and So happy" they never new I didn't answer their question, I suggest you to try that with your mother.

[dawalsh 919]

I'm a mom with grown kids myself. When I was growing up my mother was very much like yours always exaggerating the facts. If I got a B+ in grade school to her it was like an A- lol.

Your Mom is actually proud of you for losing weight but she 's going about it the wrong way.

When I would have a heart to heart with my mom she would get really upset because she 'd say she was proud of me.

Well, I no longer have Mom and she died of Alzheimer's disease and I'd give anything now just to hear her exaggerations again so forgive Mom and just keep doing what you 're doing because 35 lbs is nothing to sneeze at. Keep up the good work!