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Hey, my name is Katie, I'll be 25 in august... My surgery is my birthday present:-) I'm recently single out of a 4 year relationship. My ex was very non-supportive, but he would sext other women... I happened to find out 2 months before our wedding... So I got the heck out there. Anyways, I'm having the sleeve done, extremely nervous... I'm hoping to become the healthy, happy person I am and hopefully find true love:). Any advice?

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Congratulations on a fronts!

I am very happy for you.

Would recommend you take it one day at a time and know that you will come out on the other end a stronger happier healthier you

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Girl, you don't need advice, you had the strength to get out of a relationship that would have been very miserable for you. That may be the toughest thing you will ever do! Good on you! You go girl!

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Hi Katie, you'll find lots of support here ! ! Sorry you are having such a crappy time, but better that you found out about him now, and not after ! Being happy and healthy for yourself is the most important thing, after that,you'll find someone who is better for you and is attracted to the new you !!! Good luck !!!!

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Hey I just wanted to say cool to the birthday present. I am giving myself surgery, too. Hoping for the last week of August and my 52 birthday will be September 2.

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Katie you did a very brave thing by ending your relationship with that unkind man.

That took a lot of courage and I think that that will take you far in life.

Congratulations on making the decision to have surgery and to improve your health.

You're doing a wonderful thing for yourself.

The people here will be with you through your whole journey and will help you when you need it.

Take care and come often.

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Godspeed to you. Your new life starts now.

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You did the harder thing. Now the rest will be a piece of cake...er, Protein Shake :-)

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Honey, in a short few months time, you'll be barely remembering that idiots name!

You are already outstandingly brave. Just a little more courage and then a whole new life will open up for you.

The absolute best of luck. Let us know how you get on :) x

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So many of us have been where you were. Some of us were strong like you and able to separate ourselves from the relationship while others took longer and had to overcome the challenges of feeling like our weight somehow made our significant other misbehave.

I think it's important to know that your weight didn't make your fiancé sext other girls. He did that all by himself.

You are a strong young woman making a choice for yourself - to become a healthy strong young woman.

I applaud you and wish you the best. There are good guys out there and when it's time, you will find the one for you. :). Congrats on your birthday and gift to yourself!

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Catie...you go girl! You got this!

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