I hate this site :(

[Kfree401 16]

It's ironic, I know, that I am replying to a post which will not be read by the original person posting. I did feel, however, that I wanted to chime in with the rest of y'all and say that I love this site. I haven't gotten my sleeve yet, and am probably a month or two out. I am so interested in what others on this journey have to say about the whole process. Who knows what will be useful to me? I surely don't, but I'm an information sponge at this point! What would be the point if everyone had the exact same experience? Just sayin'!

[Butterflyhigh 504]

A bit of psychology behind people who are very overweight is self-sabotage, blaming others, victim mentality, and the abilty to live in denial.

Have you ever met a person (or you yourself) who talks about their weight loss attempts like this...."This isn't going to work. It's stupid that they expect me to do <fill in the blank>. No one here understands what I'm dealing with. I failed because of the actions/inactions of another person. Nobody told me that I should or shouldn't have done <fill in the blank>."

Many times we look for things to blame and excuses to be made. We are experts at self-sabotage. We're so good at it that we will set up situations far in advance to use as an excuse for our later failures. That is what this post make me think of. Self-Sabotage.

Let's say that we don't like this support site because of it's conflicting information. That gives us the excuse to remove ourselves from a supportive environment. It also sets up the future victimized thinking..."I didn't have enough support. Nobody understands what I'm going through. I didn't know the right choices to make. It's so hard to do this alone." Denial plays a huge part in being overweight. To consciously stay uninformed and uninvolved in a rehab-type environment (support group/website) is an obvious move towards that comfortable denial zone we live in in regards to our eating issues.

I am not saying that the OP is doing any of this. However, this is stuff that we do to ourselves and should be aware of so that we can break that self-sabotage cycle.

Edited June 28, 2014 by Butterflyhigh

[LipstickLady 25,682]

Eh...the OP is still actively posting. Must have been a moment of hangriness.

[MichiganChic 3,262]

LOL. My kids are ALWAYS Hangry. They drive me crazy

[BSU 61]

Yes, probably best that you move on then. Good luck.

[marycw1955 40]

Sorry you feel that way, Jessie...it seems as if you have been very successful with your procedure, (or at least your numbers indicate that). Could it be your expectations post surgery have not been realized?

I have often read on this site that people are not comfortable with their "new" selves. They miss the food as a comfort, social vehicle or just something that has defined them for years. This site has helped me prepare for that scenario if and when it comes. Food can no longer be the focal point of my life, I need to find a healthy and creative alternative. I am on Day 4 of post op, so I have a long way to go. This site has given me great advice especially for things at the doctor doesn't always address. I never would have made this decision without the advice and support of many posters on this blog.

I wish you the very best in your continued journey.