Im stressed about my 1yr f/u appt

[Smokey 220 110]

My one year f/u appt is tomorrow and I'm super stressed. Rationally I know I shouldn't be worried about this at all but I can't help it. I've lost 80lbs from my highest weight and I currently at 140. My family and friends don't get it. They are so happy for me and I'm happy for myself it's just this appt feels so stressful!!! I'm so worried that he is gonna say it's not good enough. Free judging myself for so long and having this year of so much support I'm scared he's gonna think I could have done better.

I feel better just putting it out there with you guys. I'm glad this site will allow me to just ramble on.

[Oak Park Lorena 162]

Seriously? You've done great! Remember that even losing 80% of your excess weight is considered a major victory--you've surpassed that! Moreover, while there are stats and general expectations, this is a highly personal journey along which we each get to decide for ourselves whether we've succeeded or failed. It's not for your surgeon to tell you what you could have done or not done. If you were way outside expectations, like you'd only lost 20 pounds in a year, then maybe, but that is certainly not the case. Let your hard won success be yours to enjoy--don't look to other people decide for you if you've succeeded! If your surgeon is anything less than thrilled, that's his problem, not yours. My surgeon is awesome--he always greets me with a huge smile and will listen endlessly to my tales of how much happier and fitter I am. I hope it goes well!

[Smokey 220 110]

Thanks I just got off the phone with my sister and she have me the same perspective. I know it's a crazy thing to think and I'm a lot better now that I've gotten it off my chest. Thanks for the kind words I guess I just needed a little cyber support!! LoL

I'll probably post something tomorrow after the appt. Thanks again!!

[LivingFree! 478]

Smokey--I think that "not being good enough" is all part of the package for some of us who have struggled with obesity issues and the resulting low self-esteem that often goes with it. Nothing to be ashamed of, but definitely something to be aware of. For some of us, society has stomped down on us for so long, and we need to do some emotional work on building our self worth back up into the stars where it belongs. Your progress has been amazing, and you deserve to own that and be confident in that.

Have a great appt and Celebrate the day. It is an important milestone for you!

[par1959 470]

Your doing great almost at goal in one year. I hope I do that well.

[Smokey 220 110]

Went to my appt. My doctor told me two things that I'll never forget

1: toss my scale out the window and quit looking at at the numbers!!

2: listen to my body!! Watch my protein/carbs/and water!!

He was so happy with my progress and told me if I went to the waiting room and told others my problem about worrying about losing 80lbs in a year they would throw something at my head!! LoL

I have done good and I guess I just needed to hear him say it. Thanks for the kind feedback and I'm so glad I have this site to vent to.

Night all!!