feeling kinda confused

[Lamonica2013 18]

Not sure if anyone can help me or give me some advice, but here goes. I have been with my boyfriend for a year and half. I was sleeved this Feb 5th and am now 4 months po. I have dropped 76 lbs so far and feeling a lot better as I continue to lose the weight. Anywho... lately my boyfriend seems to be less interested in me than before. He told me he didn't want me to have the surgery after I had it done but since has been doing nothing but pushing me, and telling me what to do. What I should eat, how much I should exercise, what exercises I should do... on and on. It's driving me crazy. He wants me to be at my goal weight ASAP so I can have the extra skin removed. I'm happy with the weight I have lost and of course I don't like the extra excess skin, but I don't wanna kill myself to do it. I know I can get to goal, but do I really have to get there as quick as I possibly can?

[BeagleLover 1,020]

Holy smokes! Sounds like you're doing great! I think you need to confront your boyfriend. Make it clear that you are the one that is dieting, the one that is exercising and following the process/procedures of experts. He needs to back off.

[RJ'S/beginning 5,358]

What the hell tell him to back off jack...this is not a race or a sprint. This is the rest of your life and if he wants to be part of it calm the hell down....Sometimes I wonder what people are thinking.

I can just imagine him taking all the credit for the hard work you are putting into this yourself....Oh I told her to do this or that...What!!!!!!!!!!!!

This is about you not him...He can encourage you and support you but to control what your doing..That is going way to far.!

[ElyQuint 446]

Honestly, I'd be a bit suspicious. My boyfriend, who is always on my ass about food, Water, sleep, exercise, sloppiness ect would NEVER even mention my loose skin! If I bring it up he pretends he doesn't know what I'm talking about. Then I start flapping my arm skin at him and he rolls his eyes and grabs my boobs. If he ever said he wanted me to lose faster so I could get my back wings removed I'd slap him with my belly flap!

[JCP 619]

I wonder if he feels threatened and insecure about your success. As in, maybe she won't need me anymore. But even so, that's his problem. If you are not getting the loving support you need, I'd say run. I know, easier said than done. But I've been there. Was there for 10 years. Time lost and wasted. Don't let anyone bring you down. You are brave and are working hard. Be proud and happy!