Going It Alone - No Help After Surgery

[blondiebabs 214]

@@MT1000 pretty much everyone I know locally is coworkers as well, the only friend friends I have in this state are about an hour away. I totally agree about being discrete about what you share with coworkers, I have a no coworkers on Facebook policy as my personal life isn't their business haha (granted I will add people I liked after I leave a job). The only two that I have told at work are the ones going through it too, since their bravery inspired me. When it comes time, to my bosses I will probably just play it off as a surgery to help my back since they know I have scoliosis, and technically the weight being gone will help my back. One of the women in my office got a gastric bypass several years ago, when I started working there before I even met her I was told about how she had gotten the surgery and lost all this weight and now everyone constantly watches her and talks about it if she looks like she's gained any weight back and quietly criticizes her if she has a small piece of the monthly birthday cake or anything, and are just kind of waiting for her to fail, and I do not want that kind of pressure (work is already enough work HA).

Since I live in a college town, depending on what time of year my surgery is, I'm guessing that I can easily get one of the vet school students to come walk my dog for me and help me out with him. There are usually several living in my complex every term. So as I've read everyone's advice and my wheels have been spinning the past couple of days, I think I may put a sign up in the laundry room first just to see if anyone would be willing to take him for a walk every day for the first few days I am home. I LOVE that there are so many other dog lovers here

I'm also excited to read about everyone's journeys here, it is very wonderful and indeed inspiring!

[JanaAZ 16]

My husband was here but I hate people doting over me. I begged him to go back to work after a day or two. I did everything myself except carry gallons of milk. I asked the grocery store to pack my bags

under 8 lbs. We were told not to lift anything over 10. If I had to buy a gallon of something, I'd probably try to get it in a smaller size.

Other than that, I pushed the laundry basket with my feet so I didn't have to carry it, I took it slow when walking, limited my time on the stairs, etc. It was not difficult at all. Just know you will get out of bed slowly...especially without someone to help you up. Bending over was a little difficult for a few days, but I took things slowly.

I hate being waited on. I'm way too independent or that.

[blondiebabs 214]

@@JanaAZ I am not for being waited on or smothered either, when I had to have surgeries in the past and literally had to have help it made me a bit batty having to ask for stuff, I'd rather do it on my own. So I'm relieved to hear that the post-op isn't so horrible that you absolutely have to have help.

[BSU 61]

Biggest issue I see is getting back home from the hospital after the endoscopy and surgery. You may still be under the effects of anesthesia or pain medications and may not be able to drive yourself. Really handy to have someone to drive you home.

[blondiebabs 214]

I will definitely find a ride home

[rodeomom969 39]

From my experience, I wouldn't see any reason you can't take your dog out a few times a day. I walked a mile 3 days after surgery and haven't stopped. My surgery was 4/14 and seriously the surgery itself was very easy. I only had pain meds at the hospital the first day, after that I didn't even need Tylenol. I had a lot of family around, but my doctor told us in our pre-surgery class to do things for yourself, especially after surgery. (of course not lifting heavy things) I really didn't need help anyway. Good luck to you and hope everything goes smoothly and as easy as I had it.

[purrfctangel 239]

Good thread. I had a hip replacement and only had someone with me for a couple days. I fought hard to come back and figured out ways to scoop kitty litter and such. Now i live near family but they range from "if it's what you have decided" to "you're an idiot" so it's good I'm still a fighter.

[blondiebabs 214]

@@purrfctangel Oh gosh! Yeah, I've still only told about 10 people and my surgery is next month. LOL I did tell one of my friends that I was taking a taxi to the surgery and she was like NO YOU AREN'T and now she's taking off of work and driving over an hour to get here and taking me. lol!! Sometimes 1 good friend is worth trading all your family for. I'm not so scared of doing recovery alone now though, a little anxiety but not too bad. =D I'm just ready for it to get here!

[purrfctangel 239]

I have a friend in RI that did it on her own, lived on the third floor of a house with a steep winding stairway. It's mostly being as prepared as possible up front! We'll probably go about the same time. We are strong and can do this!

[blondiebabs 214]

@@purrfctangel INDEED!!!

[Foreverblessedx3 16]

I think you will do fine. To me, this was an easy surgery. My husband took me to the hospital and brought me home, but he worked the rest of the time. He doesn't cook, so by day after coming home, I was cooking for him, and 1 week after was Christmas, I had help from my daughter Christmas but i shopped for groceries and still cooked a big Christmas dinner, and did light housekeeping. I'm really independent and didn't ask for help unless I really couldn't reach something. I actually was happiest when everyone exited the house in the morning and left me alone. Lol I was embarrassed to have to ask a sales clerk to pick something up I dropped...I don't know if it was a mental block but I stared at it...bent over to pick it up and nah...not going there yet...so asked for help...hurt my pride a bit but she was very gracious and probably wondered why this idiot was out shopping after surgery but I looked at it as exercise. I did a lot of walking in stores and didn't have a driving restriction if I wasn't taking pain meds. I think I would actually prefer to be alone after surgery with someone checking in occasionally...that sounds peaceful.

[blondiebabs 214]

@Foreverblessedx3 After having 7+ months to prepare now, my anxieties have eased up a lot. I think I was mostly really nervous about it and looking for feedback about it because I had 2 heart ablations in the past where I pretty much couldn't do anything for about a week after each one because I could barely walk from them going through my groins. But I'm glad to hear so many good experiences! The thought of recovery after a surgery can be intimidating lol =)

[Pac-woman 325]

I felt like an upside down turtle the first few days

[blondiebabs 214]

@@Pac-woman that is a good description! haha I'm hoping you are feeling much better now =)

[purrfctangel 239]

Ugh... i was in a body cast from neck to knees 20 years ago. Tried once to sleep on my stomach and got stuck, couldn't turn back over, definately in turtle mode lol. So i know what I'm looking at!