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No regrets but struggling with depression after surgery. I am wondering if I will ever enjoy eating again. Every time i try to eat its such a struggle. I always feel like my food is stuck . If it's not shakes or yogurt it seems to feel like a rock in my stomach. Help?? :wacko:

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I have the same problem too and im 4 weeks out. I sometimes regret that i did this surgery i think more so bec i am so restricted with what i can eat... I love the results so far... Down 33 pounds but i miss not having to be a pain when it comes to eat and what to eat. :( we will get thru this.

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i am happy with my results also . But this is sure tough . I dare anyone to say bariatric surgery is "the easy way out "....

Are you exercising? I am walking but not as much as I should. Im just tired when I get ho from work. I did swim today for 15 minutes . I feel like I should be all up into some kind of big workout ! Feeling guilty about NOT :blush:

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Just give it time....within a few months you will be able to eat a somewhat normal portion of protein.......I am 3 months out and can eat a normal protien portion cooked in any manner. I don't stress about marinades or fats used to cook........just make sure you eat the Protein first and then maybe a few bites of veggies and lastly, carbs.......I know it's tough at first but coming from a long time chef......it gets "normal"

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Give yourself time, I promise it will get easier...just gotta give your new stomach time to adjust, don't rush it.

The first 5-6 weeks were the most challenging, however before you know it, this period will be a distant memory!

Good luck and hang on...you're in for one heck of a journey! ;) :D

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Eating and drinking was a huge chore for me for almost 3 months. I really just wished I could take everything IV. But now everything has returned to normal, I love my meals and Snacks and even Protein Shakes. And I can finally drink plain Water again....thank goodness because now I can't stand the taste of artificial sweeteners. With all this healthy eating I feel like I'm 20 again. Don't forget you just had MAJOR surgery and you have to relax and heal and take things as slow as you need to. Like everyone said, it will get better.

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I want to say THANK YOU to all of your encouraging replys !! :)

To have so many people who have "been there, done that" this forum has been a life saver for me !

I feel kind of like i am riding a roller coaster honestly. Some days up , some down ... But i do know this is the best decision I could have made for myself !!

Thank you again :D

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Ditto to what everyone above said! Just a little "looking into the future" for you--I am 3 years out, and those memories of how tough it was at the point of where you are right now have long faded away. I definitely still respect that I went through all that because it is all part of the process, but there is soooo much good that is right around the corner for you.

I know you know this--not trying to "tell you what to do"--but when you say your food feels like it's stuck. You are still taking real small bites and chewing them really well before swallowing and waiting a bit between bites, right? For me--slowing down my eating was a major hurdle. That's why I mentioned it. :>)

As someone who has struggled with chronic depression my whole adult life, I do relate to what depression feels like. Your feelings related to what you've been through with WLS are normal and to be expected. My wish for you is that these feelings will lift for you day by day as your strength returns and your body fully heals from the surgery. You are now nourishing it the way it was always meant to be nourished. I personally have found that since I am not eating the junk anymore, my depressed brain has healed considerably along with my sleeved body!

And--you WILL enjoy eating again. You know what is different? Today, I no longer have any guilt associated with ANYTHING I eat for the first time in my life. I don't have to categorize food as GOOD or BAD. Because now I know how to make the right CHOICES. And if I want to PLAN to have an occasional ice cream cone in my eating plan this week, I can have it, enjoy it, and continue on with my normal, healthy eating plan. That feeling of power over your relationship with food is HUGE. It doesn't happen overnight, and not without a lot of work, but when it does, Yay, Yay, Yay! Best wishes to you!

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