At the end of my rope...

[mal0712 101]

Hi everyone! I have just decided this past week to pursue weight loss surgery (possibly the sleeve). I can't take hearing how pretty I would be if I lost weight another time. My final straw was lying to my husband..... He is taking me on a cruise for our anniversary... We were deciding on flying or driving. I lied to him... I told him I was scared of flying so we agreed We would drive to the port.... I can't take any of this anymore. I want a life of less fear and more LIVING. I just pray that I will qualify and not have any issues getting this done. I need help!!!

[shahada 82]

Welcome to the forums and good luck on your journey!

[drijc 14]

Mal0712 I know what you mean. My 1st appointment for the whole thing is in the morning. I need this to go smoothly. I am hoping to be approved and get my surgery scheduled at the latest 6 months from now. I plan to stay on top of all lab work and other appointments to get them done as quickly as I can. I like you need this, I've tried so many times to lose weight and nothing has worked.

I wish you luck and know that we are here to support each other!

[mal0712 101]

Thank you so much!

[mal0712 101]

Mal0712 I know what you mean. My 1st appointment for the whole thing is in the morning. I need this to go smoothly. I am hoping to be approved and get my surgery scheduled at the latest 6 months from now. I plan to stay on top of all lab work and other appointments to get them done as quickly as I can. I like you need this, I've tried so many times to lose weight and nothing has worked. <br><br> I wish you luck and know that we are here to support each other!

I have let myself get ridiculously out of hand.... I'm going to see my pcp this Friday to get the ball Rollin. My insurance requires a prior authorization. Between my BMI of 55 ,my high cholesterol, depression, etc. I'm hoping they will send me on through ????.

[tammie30 43]

It's ok to feel what you're feeling. I have my final appt with my surgeon this Wednesday .. The 4th it was a quick journey in happy to say.. Still waiting on my approval .. Thr papers haven't even been submitted but I'm being positive and all that good stuff.. Praying on it. I have a bmi of 46.7 247 lbs, hypertension, pre diabetic, high cholesterol, prior depressant ( at times I still get depressed ) elevated thyroid ( abnormal ) high triglycerides .. Thankfully I'm not taking anything for any of it. I'm also 5'1 I live in Ny I have health First.. Let's see fingers crossed I get this approval becauSe I'm SOOO done being the " fat one " everywhere I go. I'm always the one standing out because I'm the big girl

[Cupcake 801]

Congrats to you both for making the choice to be healthy stay focus and take one day at a time I am sure you both with be approved good luck on your journal.

[bitter42 23]

I know what you mean about lying. I have told my husband I'm scared of heights because he had mentioned going to an amusement park and I know I won't fit in the rides. He hasn't mentioned flying, but I'm sure I'd come up with a lie for that also. It's very sad, but at least we're doing something to take back control of our lives now! Best of luck in your journey!

[LindafromFlorida 1,542]

Good luck! Everything you want to know is here, and at the WL seminars. Every time my surgeon's staff "didn't know", someone helped me here.

[mal0712 101]

I know what you mean about lying. I have told my husband I'm scared of heights because he had mentioned going to an amusement park and I know I won't fit in the rides. He hasn't mentioned flying, but I'm sure I'd come up with a lie for that also. It's very sad, but at least we're doing something to take back control of our lives now! Best of luck in your journey!

I'm glad I found people that understand!! My husband is in the military and is pretty fit. We took our children to an amusement park and we argued the whole time be use he was riding all the rides with them and I was just walking and watching.... He didn't understand that I couldn't ride the rides and I was too ashamed to tell him that was why I couldn't. If I get this surgery I will go to as many amusement parks as I can and ride every ride I can fit on!!

[jenngottaloseit 89]

im in the same boat i have never flown or rode roller coasters because i have been very big my whole life. i cant wait for surgery and to start having a life filled with "firsts" good luck on your journey

[mal0712 101]

<p>im in the same boat i have never flown or rode roller coasters because i have been very big my whole life. i cant wait for surgery and to start having a life filled with "firsts" good luck on your journey</p>

I thought about documenting a lot of my " firsts" and doing a scrap book type thing. So I can look back and remember what all I go through to get to where I wanna be

[rjnkajun 9]

best luck! I am prior military so I know how your husbands training keeps him fit. I never had a weight issue until much later. mainly due to the back issues that Parachuting in the Army brought on some 5-10yrs later. I had the sleeve done in March and I have to say I like it. granted the weight is not coming off as fast as I was expecting and I am able to eat ANYTHING I have tried and I still crave foods. this is not the golden ticket so many people think it is. its still work. you still have to walk away from foods. Sugars do not bother me. I haven't had a type of food really stop me from eating it except I tasted a Soft Taco which I threw up. and some deer sausage that i didn't chew good enough. i threw that up as well! my biggest challenge isn't walking away its eating it slowly after living that Military life of eat fast and get back to training. its hard but the surgery def. makes you slow down. so with that being said . good luck the sleeve is a great TOOL i hope you don't have the issues i had getting approval. the worse part for me so far was the second day in the hospital when they made me do the swallow test. I never hurt or threw up so bad in my life. but i soldiered threw it and got enough down for them to see no leaks and it was smooth sailing since. i even drink Water how i want. large sips don't bother me 7 weeks post op which is great since i live in South Louisiana its HOT and i do allot of outside activities. so staying hydrated has been easy for me. again BEST OF LUCK!

[LindafromFlorida 1,542]

What is funny is our men see us in a different light than we see ourselves. I bought an extra airline seat to keep from embarrassing my sweet husband, scared he could not fit in the seat (he did). He is still begging me after 23 years (I will be 68 in a month) to get a bikini. Think that will ever happen if it hasn't happened yet? NO! Even overweight he begged me to buy sexy clothes LOL. I think men who try to get you on the rides have no conception of our body weight and feelings about ourselves. Counting the blessings.....

[rjnkajun 9]

What is funny is our men see us in a different light than we see ourselves. I bought an extra airline seat to keep from embarrassing my sweet husband, scared he could not fit in the seat (he did). He is still begging me after 23 years (I will be 68 in a month) to get a bikini. Think that will ever happen if it hasn't happened yet? NO! Even overweight he begged me to buy sexy clothes LOL. I think men who try to get you on the rides have no conception of our body weight and feelings about ourselves. Counting the blessings.....

blinded by love that is all. we see the real you. not what is on the outside! granted when my wife asks me anything about how she looks my 1st answer is a question. So how do you feel in it? keeps me out of trouble cause if I answer how I see her Which in my eyes is amazing. I like a women with a lil (lets just call it) substance to her! I get in trouble. so I learned how I see her and how she sees herself and how others see her are 3 different things! she thinks shes fat. I think she is Beautiful her friends all think she is skinny ( granted she is much smaller then most of her friends) but not nearly boney like her sister. so her perception at times is way off!