musicmama 19 Posted May 31, 2014 I had my consult with my surgeon yesterday. Before then, I was about 80% sure I was going ahead. Last week, my sweet hubs was about 25% sure, by the end of last week he was prob 50% sure, by mid week this week he was prob 60% sure, and as of my appt yesterday, we are both, totally completely 100% SURE this is happening! I have my psych appt June 10, my first nut appt June 12 and a fitness eval the same day. Aetna requires a 3 month multidisciplinary program, which I thought meant 90 days. So I was thinking "okay, June to July, July to August, August to September…" and I explained I just needed to be back at work by the 2nd week of November (I work at UPS)… but it's actually just "3 months" meaning I'll go in June, in mid July, and in mid August (I turn 40 on August 16th!) and then they submit. He said Aetna typically takes about 3 weeks, so with that, and then the 2 week liquid diet and some buffer time…. I'm officially scheduled for surgery on September 25th!! Which, incidentally will be the 16th anniversary of when I met my sweet hubs. We were also married on a "25th" (in March) so that day just has always had special meaning <3 It will also mean I can give my dear friend her baby shower on September 13th, I can do the craft fair with my partner-in-crime on September 20th, and be ready to do another fall fair by October 25th (and work on restocking my stuffs while I'm recuperating!) I'm just so.stinkin'.happy. IT'S REALLY REALLY HAPPENING!!!!!! 1 blondiebabs reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
thesuse2000 698 Posted May 31, 2014 What were the key things that made you and your husband feel sure about it? Just curious, because while my husband accepts and supports that this is what I've decided to do, he still is so worried that I will eventually have permanent complications and regret it. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
musicmama 19 Posted May 31, 2014 I hadn't met the surgeon or been to the office. I couldn't let myself go "all the way" before getting all the answers. Like finding out *exactly* what our out of pocket would be. Making sure I liked the people in the office. Making sure I was comfortable with the staff, stuff like that. My husband had some of the same questions like yours. He's always been naturally slim, even now when he's heavier than he used to be he only wears a 36 pants. We have had some really good, long, emotional talks about everything, it's been REALLY good to go through this decision WITH him, rather than dragging him along After he met everyone, spoke with the insurance guy, and saw some of the pictures of the transformations, he is really in. He sees how things will change for us. I don't mean that in a negative to positive way, if that makes sense. I've always been heavy as long as he's known me (I wore a size 15/16 when I was 12, for example), so he's never known me in a size smaller than a 22, so it's not like he's waiting for me to lose weight to get me back. kwim? But stuff like I'll get to go horseback riding when we go to the beach next year. Things I've been afraid to do (like ride a jet ski) I won't have to think twice about. And he sees how it's not the "easy way" at all, he's watched all the same videos and such I have. He's seen me lose 50lbs 4x over our 16 years together, so he knows I've literally tried everything. He's a super guy <3 1 thesuse2000 reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
thesuse2000 698 Posted May 31, 2014 That's so great that he's being a real partner in this with you! Sounds like you are setting yourself up for great success and an improved life together - very awesome. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
joy59 81 Posted May 31, 2014 <p>I had my consult with my surgeon yesterday. Before then, I was about 80% sure I was going ahead. Last week, my sweet hubs was about 25% sure, by the end of last week he was prob 50% sure, by mid week this week he was prob 60% sure, and as of my appt yesterday, we are both, totally completely 100% SURE this is happening!</p> <p> </p> <p>I have my psych appt June 10, my first nut appt June 12 and a fitness eval the same day. Aetna requires a 3 month multidisciplinary program, which I thought meant 90 days. So I was thinking "okay, June to July, July to August, August to September…" and I explained I just needed to be back at work by the 2nd week of November (I work at UPS)… but it's actually just "3 months" meaning I'll go in June, in mid July, and in mid August (I turn 40 on August 16th!) and then they submit. He said Aetna typically takes about 3 weeks, so with that, and then the 2 week liquid diet and some buffer time….</p> <p> </p> <p>I'm officially scheduled for surgery on September 25th!! Which, incidentally will be the 16th anniversary of when I met my sweet hubs. We were also married on a "25th" (in March) so that day just has always had special meaning <3</p> <p> </p> <p>It will also mean I can give my dear friend her baby shower on September 13th, I can do the craft fair with my partner-in-crime on September 20th, and be ready to do another fall fair by October 25th (and work on restocking my stuffs while I'm recuperating!)</p> <p> </p> <p>I'm just so.stinkin'.happy.</p> <p> </p> <p>IT'S REALLY REALLY HAPPENING!!!!!! </p> Musicmama I am on the same frame as you. I saw my nutritionist in May and also need 3 months of a multidisciplinary program. I see the surgeon on June 8th and hope to have more answers. Funny but I thought I was 100% sure in March when I went to the seminar now I am 85% sure but finding this forum had helped. I don't feel so alone. Anyway congratulations on getting your date and it seems like it has lined up very well. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
