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Hi All, I was blown over last weekend! I saw a friend I hadn't seen since last summer. Its a summer community where we all grew up. It's been almost two years since my surgery. I'm down 110 pounds and in a size 4. So what did my friend say to me? "I saw a really fat woman swimming in the ocean and I was so worried you had gained back all the weight" did she say it once, which I guess I could deal with. No, she said it 3 times! It continues to stagger me how thoughtless people came be sometimes!

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everyone has a ass hole....and apparently this lady had a serious case of diarrhea of the mouth that day...just remember to always rise above what people say and the no comment back to such things to me speaks volumes....well done on the weight loss GF.....i think i was a size 4 once in my mom's pregnant stomach .........oh the memories :rolleyes:

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I've had one similar comment about regaining weight but not anywhere near as rude as that. At the time I felt as though the person was trying to put the gain-back whammy on me! I was very PO'd. If you see this "friend" again I would be very direct and say you find that sort of comment very offensive and on multiple levels. No need to be abrasive but she may just be clueless, and needs educationg. Congrats on your success! Own it!!

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Oh, what part of that was susposed to make me feel good? lol x3

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I second all the above comments ! I would of pointed out that she was being insenisitive and rude, but in a very polite way. If she said it again, I would ask her how she would feel if you made a rude comment out loud several times about HER body. Sometimes thats a game changer ! Also, she seemed more concerned that you might have gained the weight back then for your safety swimming in the ocean ! That part was rude too ! She sounds very unaware of how her running off at the mouth offends people ! That being said, congratulations on your weight loss, you should be very proud of yourself ! YOU ARE AWESOME !!!!!!!!

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Wtf??

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Jealousy us an ugly green monster! There are people out there who only feel good about themselves, or at least less insecure, when they try to bring down those around them. This is why most of us hated junior high!

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When I hear tide negative things said to myself or others I always try n remember the source some people are just so miserable and unhappy in their own lives they like to spew it out.

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You sometimes cannot fix Stupid but you can tell them to STFU. I am a very direct person and if anyone was that rude to me I would fix it. I have noticed that there are so many rude people in the world lately. I am amazed at how little these people care about other people's feelings. But, Karma is a B .

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I agree with Ziggy. That was pure D jealousy. She wants you to get heavy again. That wasn't insensitity...she knew what she was saying.

Can you tell I'm in therapy....LOL!!

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WAY to go on the weight loss.

It is incredible what will come out of a person mouth.

I am so glad at the end of the day The only one that I have to please is myself.

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WOOOOOOOOOOW, what a B.....

Congratulations on your weight loss!

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