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Hey Guys...new to forum. Finally decided to listen to my doctor and attend a bariatric seminar. Went to a seminar, Decided on the VSG and completed all my paperwork. I am excited about getting started, and just wondering how long it was before you guys got called for your first appointment with the surgeon?

Also curious guy's thoughts about who and when tell others you're having surgery? My wife and I have talked about this, but I am a bit hesitant to start letting others know that I'm going to do the VS G. I want to stay focused on the process that I have to go through, and not really wanting to hear a lot of feedback on reason not to do it.

Finally, interested to hear how things of gone for guys who have done the surgery along with their wife. I was originally going to move through the process on my own, but always had a concern of how doing so would impact my marriage. My wife was not pro surgery. However, after attending the seminar is with me, we had a long talk. We both realized my moving forward solo would likely cause separation in our marriage. Especially when it comes to sex. She wouldn't feel attractive anymore, and I will be ready to go at it daily. She's now onboard, and I couldn't be more relieved that we will both have surgery. Kids won't know what to do with two more active parents!!

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I did my initial interview with the surgeon a week after I decided to have VSG. And I completed all my pre-surgery tests and was sleeved within a month. But I knew what I wanted and my insurance is very weight loss surgery friendly.

I never felt comfortable telling anyone about my decision to have surgery. I had to tell my parents and my best friend, but that was it. It's been 17 months since surgery and I'm just now feeling okay about telling people - but only if asked, I don't volunteer any information.

I would not suggest getting sleeved together. If one of you needs help during the1st few days post-surgery, the other may not be able to help. I'd at least stagger the surgeries a month or so apart. You both could go through all the pre-op tests together. You'll still be losing weight together and can be there to support each other through the process.

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Looks like your process moved along quickly. Hoping the same for me. I have BCBS and when I spoke with them, they didn't really mention anything different than the normal requests: psych eval, weight loss proof, etc...so I'll keep fingers crossed. Just waiting on the bariatric center.

I appreciate the feedback on not telling. It's a private thing for me..so I won't be telling anyone other than parents, and maybe a close friend that's like an older brother to me. I have young kids...so I could relate to one of the other guys who said they will "blab on me!!" So...my oldest is 10 and she's the one I will tell. As for everyone else...afterwards, yeah...probably will tell those who push. Otherwise, I will let them know Im eating less, and changed my diet to work on a healthier me.

Yes, Wifey and are both going to do it, but not @ same time. We'll space it out a bit, but I'm just happy she's decided to do it too! It's going to be good to Celebrate success together.

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Congrats on the first step. I am at a similar stage where I am researching my options and also think I would like a VSG. As a private guy, I was not planning on telling anyone besides my wife.

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