little upset

[Sweetbaby1 77]

I was sleeved on 4.16.14, since than I have lost a total of 55lbs. Although I am very excited I'm starting to question my sleeve decision. I know I'm suppose to slowly introduce foods back, such as puree, and other soft foods, but it's so frustrating to me. I'm on vacation in Las Vegas and only one of my friends know about my surgery. She completely understand everything I'm going thru, but the others don't. It's so hard when we go out to eat asking for ala cart or kids meals is embarsssing. Yesterday the waitress told me I couldn't get a kids meal due to my age, instead of explaining to her my situation I waisted a whole entire meal l didn't eat. My friends think I'm starting myself and don't want to eat. This crap is so... hard man. Right now I'm trying to eat a salad but can't eat the who thing. It's a real challenge. I don't want to ruin this trip for everyone but I see my friends getting catty with me already smh.

[LumpySpacePrincess 594]

I can understand how that would be rough. Maybe just tell them your stomach hasn't been feeling great lately so you don't want to eat much? I usually just order off the appetizer menu when I go out.

[Kindle 8,667]

WTH does your eating habits have to do with your friends having a good time in Vegas?!? Seriously, this is their problem, not yours. Order Soups or appropriate appetizer when you go out you save yourself the cost of a full meal you aren't going you eat. I'm 5 months out and that's still what I do. Or I don't order anything and just nibble off everyone else's plates...all my friends know about my surgery and support me all they can. In fact, they are thrilled now that I'm their permanent DD.

[Nicolanz 1,484]

I agree with Kindle 100%! Enjoy the scenery and the company! Don't make food the center of everything and definitely don't regret your decision to get healthy!

[Nicolanz 1,484]

And tell them not to worry about what you're eating! Lol good luck!

[thesuse2000 698]

Agree with all the above. And I'll add that if you don't feel you have a choice but to order a full meal - just let go of the cost issue. If you hadn't had the sleeve surgery you'd eat the whole thing and spend the same, but also get the extra calories. So why is it the end of the world if you pay for that meal now and don't eat it all?

Just move the food around your plate a bit and say that you're not that hungry if anyone asks.

[Divadee35 47]

I was sleeved on 4.16.14, since than I have lost a total of 55lbs. Although I am very excited I'm starting to question my sleeve decision. I know I'm suppose to slowly introduce foods back, such as puree, and other soft foods, but it's so frustrating to me. I'm on vacation in Las Vegas and only one of my friends know about my surgery. She completely understand everything I'm going thru, but the others don't. It's so hard when we go out to eat asking for ala cart or kids meals is embarsssing. Yesterday the waitress told me I couldn't get a kids meal due to my age, instead of explaining to her my situation I waisted a whole entire meal l didn't eat. My friends think I'm starting myself and don't want to eat. This crap is so... hard man. Right now I'm trying to eat a salad but can't eat the who thing. It's a real challenge. I don't want to ruin this trip for everyone but I see my friends getting catty with me already smh.

Jersey, you gotta be up front with your friends! There is nothing wrong with your procedure and to know is to better understand! I had to tell my friend yesterday at a cook out, I'm not pouring you a alcoholic beverage and you should not ask me to do that knowing I can't drink! You know I would want one! She understood!

[Sweetbaby1 77]

I really am keeping my surgery a secret. I don't want everyone in my business. I don't like answering to people or hearing their un wanted opinions. I refuse to tell anyone else about it. But I will just try to stick to wat I know and let them know I "don't feel well" so they won't ask questions.

[Chele H 427]

I order chicken wings off the appetizer menu or a cup of chili, some order shrimp cocktail. A salad will take up too much space in your tummy without providing enough Protein.

I didn't tell anyone except family but everyone knows I am dieting and watching carbs so to this point no one has questioned my menu choices. I also eat slowly so I keep the pace with the others a the table.

Edited May 25, 2014 by Michele H.

[Josh2xh 70]

I spent some time considering how to address questions about my weight loss. In the end in decided I honestly don't care if someone knows I had the surgery. However, what I did care about is having to explain the entire process 200 times over.

That being said I don't really know what the best explanation might be. I think it depends alot on what people already know about you. Thier is definitely a stigmatism about people who undergo surgery (no matter what kind). People who I feel deserve to be part of my life and I know genuinely care about me, I would tell. Casual acquaintances get to hear a story based mostly in truth... Either I am on an all Protein or liquid based diet.

People seem to relate to what they themselves have experienced. All people have struggled with weight issues. So relating to them on a level they can comprehend seems to get me out of conversations faster.

I can be proud of my accomplishments with family and friends who actually care.

[moonlitestarbrite 902]

go ahead and tell them. then you dont have to waste anymore food. (or just order an appetizer next time) maybe you are way over thinking this.

[andreamy7 55]

Downplay it. If you end up somewhere that is not good for you skip it. You are in Vegas there is food everywhere. When I travel, I go to the grocery store and if you are in a hotel, clean out the mini fridge or ask the FD to do it and go get a couple yogurts, some cheese sticks, a box of crackers and some hummus. Put it all in your little area and then when you get hungry or if you can tell you are not going to get to eat, have a little snack. Also, bar apps are great, offer to share with one of the other girls. I do well with potstickers, sliders minus bread, quesadillas and shrimp cocktails. If they wanna hit the buffet for $50, say I am not a buffet person I will meet you after. Text me when you are done or meet them right after somewhere nearby. You do not have to be an eater to have a good time anymore. There are other things that are fun to do-esp in Vegas-the pool, blackjack, heck hit the gym while they eat then get ready.