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I am a 41yo single mom of twins and am considering WLS in August. I am very committed to this journey, but find myself anxious about some of the "issues" surrounding being a single parent going through this. Has anyone else done this? Was it hard to stick to the liquid/restricted diets when you had to cook meals for the kids? Any suggestions for making that easier? How about your post-op ability to manage parenting for the first couple weeks? Appreciate any advice!

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How old are your twins? I'm preop and I'm a single mom, too. My boys are 14 and 20 and eat anything and everything in sight. I let my older son grocery shop so he has the things in the house they like to eat and I don't hear "There's nothing to eat!!!"

If you're a member of a church, you might ask if they could have people bring over evening meals for the first week out of surgery. That would keep you from having that chore yourself.

Are you more worried about cooking -- that you won't feel like cooking or that you'll be too tempted to eat it yourself? Are there things the twins like that you don't really care for? So you could cook those meals early on.

Best wishes as you make plans.

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I am a single mom of a 12 year old boy and 2 year old girl. I am 9 weeks post op, I was extremely nervous about my daughter as she is very attached to me. Things went much better than I anticipated and I avoided any major catastrophes following surgery. Lol, I will say that it is sometimes difficult making their dinner and trying not to steal a bite here and there. Especially when I'm making them pizza. But the fact is I have to create new healthy food habits and this is just part of the journey. Good Luck to you!! I'm sure you will do great! :)

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Thanks Ginger and Casey! My twins are 3, and a handful and a half ;). I imagine its tough for all moms, but I'm worried about getting it all done. Looking at surgery in August, but still have some hoops to jump.

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how hard was the post op period with children? im single mother to a 4 year old. shes pretty easy to get along with but I dont have much of a support system with people to watch her. Im hoping to get something worked out while im in the hosp? how is it pain wise with children at home right after surgery?

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