Surgery with your spouse?

[Rebelgirl11 2]

Anyone here had weightless surgery the same time at their wife or husband? Me and my husband are currently trying to get surgery this year probably a few months apart. I want the sleeve and he's looking at bypass. Just wondering if anyone else has similar experiences and was made it hard or easy doing it together.

[Lennyb724 13]

My wife and I are planning to have our VSG's done about 6 weeks apart. I'm going in the 2nd week of November and she's going in the first week of January '15. This way we can have just enough of a buffer to take care of each other and still start the pre/op routines at about the same time.

[ready2getgoing 41]

I am scheduled for my VSG surgery on May 27th - my wife currently has a band (3 yrs) but is meeting with the same surgeon I am going to on the 21st for her first visit to talk about a Band to Sleeve revision - she is having problems no being able to keep things down.

Exactly - we thought going through this together would help support each other.

[ausmith 374]

Anyone here had weightless surgery the same time at their wife or husband? Me and my husband are currently trying to get surgery this year probably a few months apart. I want the sleeve and he's looking at bypass. Just wondering if anyone else has similar experiences and was made it hard or easy doing it together.

My husband and I were both sleeved in Oct 13. He has already reached goal with a loss of 105lb and I have lost 78lb. I still have 44lb to go. It has been great because we were on the same food stages at the same time I also find we have had more patience for each other.

The prob now which we were aware of going into this was that male's will lose faster and in my husbands case NO exercise and hardly any stall.

I on the other hand walk for an hour 5x week and I'm always in a stall lol. So it can be a little frustrating but it is also the perfect incentive for me because it proves to me that it works and it keeps me motivated when I am stalled.

Something to watch out for is that he now has to increase his calorie's and carbs to stop the weight loss which he is struggling with at the moment. While I have to be careful to remember I Can't eat what he can, i do have to continue to exercise and I do have to stay on plan if I want to lose the rest of my weight. In saying all of that YES I would recommend couples do this together it's the best thing we have ever done.

Edited May 13, 2014 by ausmith

[Lennyb724 13]

I think there is a major advantage for spouses sharing this experience together. It make things so much easier when both people have the same basic eating regimen. We don't have kids so no "kid food" to deal with. It's such an intensely intimate process and the powerful shifts created by the massive weight loss can and will impact any relationship. If you are already solid and enjoying/enduring this experience together, then it will likely make your relationship that much stronger. Conversely anyone having WLS hoping to "fix" a broken relationship is in for a sad awakening, I'm afraid.

[NothingUpMySleeve 244]

I was sleeved in December and my husband was sleeved in April, so we are 5 months out and one month out.

I am so glad we are able to support each other. Plus, now that he's on more or less regular food, we can always split dishes. food is cheap!

[NothingUpMySleeve 244]

I forgot to mention we have two little kids. They basically eat wag we do, but we eat less than a 3 and 4 year old!

[Rebelgirl11 2]

Has anyone had issues with insurance denying you because your spouse was getting surgery too? Or is that even possible.

[Lennyb724 13]

Has anyone had issues with insurance denying you because your spouse was getting surgery too? Or is that even possible

That's NOT possible. The Healthcare Reform Act did away with Lifetime Maximum Benefits a couple of years ago. I'm on my wife's Anthem BC/BS policy and outside of their standard Bariatric Surgery Criteria they can't deny us the benefit. It's doubtful that the same claims specialist will handle both of our pre-approvals.