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The love of my life passed away last Sunday at 7:05 pm. His last days were filled with tremendous suffering that haunts me. The better half of my life is gone and I have no idea how to me me without him. Yes life goes on but right now it has stopped for me. Six long months of suffering and yes I know he is with Jesus but I miss him and am selfish and want him back. I'm broken.

I'm so sorry for your loss. I can only imagine how difficult this is for you and your family. He is no longer suffering and is in a good place now. You will see him again someday. Try to take care of yourself the best that you can.

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Lisa, God's Grace as you struggle to get through the loss of your love. We all have lost loved ones, but we all know that we can't, take away your terrible pain and heartbreak, it is a long and slow process until you find a way to go on in life, and see the sunshine and sunsets again. I can hardly bear to look at my 30 y/o son's picture, from 7 years ago when he died. I cope, but the pain will forever be in my heart and soul. I am glad that you were able to find that special love in your life. Prayers for you. Linda

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I am so sorry for your loss. Prayers continued to be sent up for you.

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Please accept my sincere condolences in the loss of your dear husband.

Although he is no longer physically beside you, he very much feels your unending love just the same. I know you want him back, but you have not lost him. He is in your heart a-l-w-a-y-s. Wishing you peace and gentle healing. For now, just feel your feelings--don't question them, don't apologize for them, just be.

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I am so sorry for your loss. My deepest condolences to you.

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I'm so sorry. You're not permanently broken, but changed -- yes. You will live through this. Much love and hugs to you.

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Im.sorry for your husband's dilemma . One thing I do know: when he does succumb, and u dont know when, he will be gone but you will still be here. You need to think about your lives now while you are together and do what you both want. But you also need to think about your life after. ..and plan not to make it so much harder by being 20 lbs heavier. It wont help.

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Im.sorry for your husband's dilemma . One thing I do know: when he does succumb, and u dont know when, he will be gone but you will still be here. You need to think about your lives now while you are together and do what you both want. But you also need to think about your life after. ..and plan not to make it so much harder by being 20 lbs heavier. It wont help.

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Thank you Rosy, but my husband died June 8th.

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I am so sorry to learn this and please forgive the ill timed words preceeding. I had hoped to share that with u in a timely fashion. And how are you coping with this now? People usually say they will get thru it but I have found that it is not something we get thru at all. Rather something we grow through and emerge completely different. It was that anticipation that kept me curious and going.

No, im still growing, I find...

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