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So hitting a 40 pound loss seems to have changed my appearance enough that I am suddenly getting more questions about my loss. What I notice is those more confident about themselves, especially my male co-workers, are complimentary and interested. (Not in an inappropriate way, btw) The women are different. I have a very good friend at work who opted not to have WLS, but she has been losing weight along with me, and is always supportive and complimentary. Then I have the super-skinny egotistical co-worker who looks me up and down and says nothing. And some closer co-workers who have recently gained weight and don't say anything to me about my loss, even in the presence of others who excitedly ask my secret. (Which I sometimes share, depending on the person.) When I lost 20 pounds, I got a few reactions. When I lost 30 pounds, I got a few more. At 40 pounds down, the reactions, positive and negative, are happening several times a day. So I am celebrating it all. Wondering what it will be like to be at goal. What will that egotistical super-skinny-b**ch ever do with herself? ;)

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Let it all be your motivation. I love it when I see people for the first time since having surgery and they are like WTF happened to you?

Enjoying every pound lost!!

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I am experiencing this same thing. Men are complimentary and kind, most (not all) women don't say a thing. I find it so odd, I'm looking forward to the rest of my weight loss and the reactions of others. It sometimes is comical.

Congrats on yours :)

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Im going back to work next week and I know Im going to get the questions and compliments. Only 1 co-worker/friend knows about my wls. Ive lost 19lbs so far and its noticable on my face alot and a little in my tummy area. I plan on telling them I been doing a strict juicing diet. Well technically Im not lying lol

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I have lost 40 pounds and none of my coworkers said a thing.

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It's interesting how people behave toward others. The fact that you are losing weight, forces others to look at you differently. Fat people are easy to ignore and dismiss. It is part of US society. Due to propaganda, one must look a certain way to be considered beautiful

You lose the weight and people who dismissed you are forced to see you differently. You will find people will treat you far differently than what you have experienced before. Many hate that. Especially women. Not all women, however that reaction will usually come from women.

Now ego girl is beginning to see you as competition. She will probably become really nasty to you. So, do not be surprised.

It shakes her own sense of self worth as you lose weight and gain confidence. Just enjoy the show she is about to put on.

As for your weight loss journey, we are all in this together. I am proud of the steps you have taken to get this far. It isn't easy and we are here to support you. Good job!!!

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