nerms 237 Posted February 11, 2015 I was in Knox city private. I'm going ok, only lost 1kg that I gained and that's taken me 3 weeks. Feeling a bit deflated. Very frustrated because I want to do shakes but I just can't commit to it anymore. Any advice on how to break up with someone? I don't have time for idiocy. He hasn't messaged me in over a week, I drove to and from Sydney and didn't even get a "drive safely". We've been together for 3 years and quite frankly I'm sick of him and have been thinking about this for a while now!! Breaking up in person will just make him cry and that will aggravate me. Breaking up over message is heartless.. It's confusing. I'm 4kgs away from losing 30kg, why am I not motivated!!! Maybe I need to dump his ass and that will push me back into it! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
steveelea 61 Posted February 11, 2015 Hey Bella not long to go now just 1 more sleep. As Chez said you are best to stay in as long as they say as they know what to look for to make sure you are recovering 100% Is hubby wanting you home because he is missing you? Yeah it gets quiet on here. Usually when people get sleeved or banded they start losing heaps of weight and we don't always hear a lot from them anymore which is great that all is going well but it's also great for everyone to keep the support going.....a lot of people tend to be on here more before they have the op and just after....not so much longer term. It's a good sign that its working well for people though Have you eaten yet?? Hows that going. It's so good to shower and get into your own clothes isn't it I was in for 4 days got out 1 day earlier than planned but I was happy to stay in as long as they needed to make sure all was ok...it's just a long stay but as Chez said it's been pretty major surgery so it should be a long stay. I had so many more ops with the band and I had 3 c sections with my kids so by the time I had my sleeve done I was just like yep I can do this and lapped up being weighted on for a change haha Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
steveelea 61 Posted February 11, 2015 Hey @@nerms sorry to hear it's not going well....three years wow that's a long time. Has he changed since you had the band done?? I know it can be threatening for some peoples partners when they start losing weight Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
steveelea 61 Posted February 11, 2015 @@nerms Oh and with the weight loss do you think you need another fill?? Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
nerms 237 Posted February 11, 2015 @@steveelea yeah I definitely need another fill, will have to be next month when I'm back in melbourne(still at my mums) He hasn't changed since the band, he's just lazy and jobless and I am 100% done. If anyone has changed its me because I realise how crappy he really is and that I deserve someone that will take me out and CALL me once in a while. Someone who has goals. Obviously I still care about him and would like to break it off gently but there really is no gentle way. He hasn't called or messaged in a week, no hellos or anything. So I'm thinking to just not message him. Even when and if he does decide to say hello I'll just ignore it. Give him a taste of his own medicine. Go single on Facebook. I've already had this conversation with him, about no communication. So he can't say "what did I do". I visited my uncle in bathurst on the weekend and he said "you don't sound very in love" and I've been thinking about that and he was right! I'd love to date again and have some fun! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
steveelea 61 Posted February 11, 2015 (edited) Well you need to look after you and be happy....being unhappy doesn't help you at all. Get out and have fun As for weight loss until a fill...try eating more Protein and very little carbs as it helps with the hunger AND weight loss. It's hard to lose weight when you are on holidays hey Hows your mum doing after her surgery?? Edited February 11, 2015 by steveelea Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
nerms 237 Posted February 11, 2015 Mums good, she's lost 10kgs so far, just over a month I think! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Bellarose100 74 Posted February 12, 2015 Wow nearly 30kgs is unreal I can't wait to hit that!! I was 93kg on the day of surgery I just want to see an 8 For a change!!! Lol Hun your way to young to waste your life with a guy like that you deserve someone better that will treat you like a princess dump his arse and get back to being you the weight will come off as you will be out there meeting new men!!! Exciting times ahead for you!! So good to hear your mums doing so well she had bypass? God I would love 10kgs in a month crossing my fingers!!! Yep Leeanne one more day and what a day it is I feel so much better! I have been having cups of tea and apple juice at lunch I got a Fluid tray it had Soup custard and jelly so I had a little Soup it was yuk! The custard was super nice only ate 2 spoons worth might have a few more soon I was hungry before I started on the tea and apple juice so feel less hungry now thank goodness! My swallow test was excellent as well so all is going well It's a Shame some of the others arn't coming in I am dying to know how they are doing!!! Glad to see you are both well ladies! ???????? Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Bellarose100 74 Posted February 13, 2015 (edited) I am finally home!!! I feel so much better!!!! Now bring on the weight loss lol ???? Edited February 13, 2015 by Bellarose100 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Bellarose100 74 Posted February 13, 2015 Wow hiccups really hurt!! 1/4 cup of pumpkin Soup for dinner it was so yummy!! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Bellarose100 74 Posted February 13, 2015 Leeanne can I ask you a few questions as you are our veteran I feel hungry from time to time so have 1/4 cup Soup and it goes away but If an ad for a Big Mac comes on my mouth will start watering and the craving is so strong is this what they call head hunger?? Will this pass? I was not hungry for the 1st few days but I get a little hungry now it's day 6 for me :-) Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Bellarose100 74 Posted February 14, 2015 Does anyone know if our bodies go in to ketosis as I don't feel as hungry today? Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Chez 91 Posted February 14, 2015 Hey Bella, not sure about the ketosis I know that I was in that before surgery. Afterwards I didn't get hungry or think about hunger til a month in. Now it's the head hunger I struggle with. My advice, take each day as it comes every day is different. I still have trouble with solid good. chicken and me don't mix well but everyone's different. It's totally worth it wouldn't change my choice. All the best x Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Bellarose100 74 Posted February 15, 2015 Hey Bella, not sure about the ketosis I know that I was in that before surgery. Afterwards I didn't get hungry or think about hunger til a month in. Now it's the head hunger I struggle with. My advice, take each day as it comes every day is different. I still have trouble with solid good. chicken and me don't mix well but everyone's different. It's totally worth it wouldn't change my choice. All the best x Thanks chez Yep everyday I am getting better I managed to get a Protein shake in this morning I am really missing chicken right now!! How is your loss going? Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
steveelea 61 Posted February 15, 2015 @@Bellarose100 Oh no the hiccups..... So glad to hear that you are home When did you get to leave and how long was your stay in total?? Isn't it funny how when you manage to get in a 1/4 of a cup feels like you have just eaten a massive Christmas dinner For some reason I am not getting my emails to let me know that people have posted for a couple of days then I get them all at once....not sure whats going on there but sorry for the delays in replying. @@nerms hows it going?? Share this post Link to post Share on other sites