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So I am nearly 10 months post RNY. I have lost over 180 pounds and feel terrific. I am only 5'2". When I began this journey, my BMI was over 60, I am now under 30, but still in the 'overweight' category. My goal is to try to lose another 15-20 pounds, which will put my BMI in the 'normal' range. Over the weekend a family friend told me I need to watch out for anorexia! When I explained my BMI, she said that I am a large boned woman, and that I should not try to reach a normal BMI. I am not really sure I am larger boned. I have had so much fat on my body that I don't know how anybody could see the size of my bones!

So, here's my question. Has anybody else had push back from family or friends as you approach your goal? How have you handled those comments?

Carol

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Unfortunately, I have heard that that is a common reaction. Pay no attention. And, no, nobody has big bones. Our bones are all about the same.

As long as you and your doctor are monitoring your health, that is all you need to worry about. Congratulations on doing so well! and keep up the good work.

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So I am nearly 10 months post RNY. I have lost over 180 pounds and feel terrific. I am only 5'2". When I began this journey, my BMI was over 60, I am now under 30, but still in the 'overweight' category. My goal is to try to lose another 15-20 pounds, which will put my BMI in the 'normal' range. Over the weekend a family friend told me I need to watch out for anorexia! When I explained my BMI, she said that I am a large boned woman, and that I should not try to reach a normal BMI. I am not really sure I am larger boned. I have had so much fat on my body that I don't know how anybody could see the size of my bones!

So, here's my question. Has anybody else had push back from family or friends as you approach your goal? How have you handled those comments?

Carol

I tell people all the time that at 267 5'2" I was all fat. Big bones didn't play a role. So at 5'2" 138 lbs how would they now? Girl, do your thing and let them wonder. I've fantasized about telling people I lost my weight from lipozene or some other stupid reason just because im sick of the questions. I'm more than my weight and so are u. :)

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Thanks for the support. When I look in the mirror I don't see fat, I see slim. I want to be at a healthy weight and I think I have a good chance of getting there. I have gotten so used to the compliments, I find it hard to know what to do with the criticisms. All part of the journey I suppose.

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I have heard this from people in the past when I lost a lot of weight in college. I was a little too small for my frame, but people tend to use anorexia out of its true context. Its an anxiety disorder, and just because you may be a little too small for the frame of your body does not mean you are anorexic. You keep on doing what you want to do, as long as it is healthy, and just let people think what they want. You're happiness is all that matters!

You have done terrific!

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