Do u ever wonder how people here eat such a perfect diet - all the time?

[DoggieMama 20]

I agree with original poster-- haven't we all heard multiple times "if you would only make better choices, get more excercise, etc". Usually from a thin friend or relative. And it was usually hurtful and annoying and we thought to ourselves " they don't understand how hard it is". Now to hear the same from people who DO understand is worse. Did they forget? I do not plan to live on salad either. I want to eat as a "normal" person. Normal foods, normal meals with my family, (even dessert once in awhile), but in much smaller amounts. That is where I need help and my new tool gives me that.

Some people with certain co-morbidities can't do a lot of strenuous excercise or strength training but can still have success from their surgery.

So, let's all remember where we started and not be judgmental about how others choose to go forward with their tool. We are all different, but we've ALL experienced enough judgement to last a lifetime. I for one will not be part of that culture just because someone is losing slower or doing things differently.

P.S. I don't believe those "perfect" people never put a bite of cake or a brownie or a bite of ice cream in their mouth!

[LumpySpacePrincess 594]

As someone who suffers from ED-NOS (basically components of a few eating disorders jumbled together), I can tell you that it is not a far leap for your brain to swing from an ED like binge eating to bulimia or anorexia after surgery. Many people with undiagnosed eating disorders have this issue; there is even a sub-category of eating disorders appearing in psychological literature called 'post-surgical eating avoidance disorder' along with orthorexia.

Personally, I don't believe in 'cheating' or 'bad foods'. food is just food; its an object and only gives you power when you assign a moral label to it. Many people struggle greatly with this and post-ops often feel that eating bad food will 'ruin' their new digestive system and negate the benefits of the surgery. What's truly sad to me is that many people never get the psychological care they absolutely need to obtain and maintain a long-term healthy relationship with food.

When I give advice to people on how I managed to lose so much (because of my very large cohort in a FB support group, I have lost the most so I get asked quite a lot) I give them my baseline nutrition stats. What I don't add in are all my 'extras' that might pop up. I do eat only an average of 650 calories per day, 20g net carbs and 80g protein; that's how I managed to lose my weight. BUT...if I see a cookie and I want one, I have one; then I walk away and continue with my normal diet. (This is different from before surgery when I might sit down and eat half a pack of oreos and wash it down with a pint of whole milk after a large dinner. )

I suspect that is what a lot of people on here do: they give their baseline stats but there's no reason to add in 'also you might have xxx food xxx times per week)'.

Hope maybe that helps??

[*Lexie* 1,486]

I was glad to see this post and to read through it all, I found it interesting from all points of view. I would love to be a perfect bariatric patient but find myself somewhere in the middle. I work out pretty strenuously and track everything I eat but I don't make perfect choices all the time. My calories are always below 1000 but there's a day or two where I may not get my Protein. Combine that with being a slow loser and I often feel like a failure and beat myself up a lot. Maybe our mental state effects how we interpret other people's posts.

[sylvia45 29]

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[livvsmum 2,369]

I am not "perfect" by any stretch of the imagination, but I did not have this surgery to continue the same unhealthy eating habits I had before. I am not dieting. I have changed my entire lifestyle from the food and drink I put in my mouth, to running, to working hard in therapy to deal with my eating disordered thinking. Why would I want to do the same thing I did before when I went to such drastic measures to make a change? That makes little sense to me, but if it is working for you and you are happy then that is what is important. Not what I do. And I tend to only tell people what I'm doing when they post requesting the information or in response to a question that was posed.

[cryssyd3 80]

Couldn't agree more. Hence why I don't post here as much anymore.

The one time I said I was torn about my surgery date because my liquid diet fell on thanksgiving, I got my butt chewed apart.

No one is perfect, people need to stop acting as such.

Oh and btw, I cheated on my liquid diet one night and I didn't die and the world didn't end!

[*Lexie* 1,486]

@cryssyd3 Good luck with surgery tomorrow!

[cryssyd3 80]

@cryssyd3 Good luck with surgery tomorrow!

Thank you!!

[LipstickLady 25,682]

Since this thread popped back up to the top, I thought I would reference a thread the OP wrote about 6 months after this one. Just to get the full picture.

http://www.bariatricpal.com/topic/321966-for-those-of-u-who-have-criticized-my-way-of-doing-the-sleeve/