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I just posted asking for help too. I'm new and I thought I was doing great and working so hard to find the weight I'd already lost creeping back up on me! It's easy to feel discouraged when you want something so bad. I hate people asking " how much have you lost now?" And I have to say "still just 6 lbs" or worse, "Well I've gained a couple pounds". Hang in there! You aren't alone!

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Green zone is when you have adequate fill.. Not so tight you can't eat...not so loose so you experience hunger sooner than every 3 to four hours. Yellow zone too loose, red zone too tight.

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Hi Melissa , Hang in there ,I know exactly how you feel ,I have gained more than I lost but for the last 2 days since my 2nd fill ,I hav,nt been hungry.Keeping my fingers crossed that It will last a while :))))

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I'm 17 months post op and still struggling ! I am so frustrated because it seems like I'll never get to ONEderland. ( under 200 lbs ). I can't seem to lose weight lately and I am terribly frustrated . Sometimes I feel like I want to give up all together but my head keeps saying I'm going to do it. My goal of getting under 200 lbs has been the biggest struggle in my life.

Good luck to everyone!

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I'm 17 months post op and still struggling ! I am so frustrated because it seems like I'll never get to ONEderland. ( under 200 lbs ). I can't seem to lose weight lately and I am terribly frustrated . Sometimes I feel like I want to give up all together but my head keeps saying I'm going to do it. My goal of getting under 200 lbs has been the biggest struggle in my life.

Good luck to everyone!

So, you've been here long enough to grasp how this all works? Why do you think this isn't working for you? Are you not experiencing the satiety signals? Not handling cravings? Exercise? Just trying to help!

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u need to call ur doctor--- believe me they know how these things hpapen...this is an expensive investmetn and u have got to call ur dr.,plz

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I have had my band since 2010 did really well was 294 and went to 200lb by Xmas 2013. Well guess what I started getting really sick all the time can't eat nothing but junk food. So they defilled me a couple times and I gained went to 215 and then 220 and still getting sick and not loosing no weight so they sent me for a barrium swallow and took more fill out of me. Still never got my results from my barrium and now up to 240lbs so I am so discouraged and I pray when I go for the fill again I don't get sick no more and loose my weight again.

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I know that when I was first banded, the nurse told me it would not be unusual to gain weight until I felt the restriction. I don't believe I felt it until the fourth fill. Just keep on trying to be mindful of what you eat. You will get there.

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The lap band is a tool to assist with dieting. I had this discussion with my doctor yesterday. I had surgery back in December of 2009 in VA. I never had restriction, so it had been difficult. I lost 40lbs. Then gained back 20. Very depressing.

I have recently moved to Texas, and found a new doctor. We have basically reset my journey! I have a 14cc band, and I am at 12c's now. I'm hoping I will have restriction now.

You have to work hard to lose weight with the band, unlike the sleeve, bypass, DS, etc. It not a magic cure (like I thought it would be). 3 people that had surgery along with me have all had revision surgery to get the sleeve. If I have not lost most of my weight in two years, I am going to think about revision surgery.

Sorry to go on and on, I just do not want you to have the same experience I have had. You have to restrict your food intake, and exercise. It may take more fills than you like to find restriction, but do not give up! I haven't, and I will keep chugging along!

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Thank you for your input and replies.I feel stronger now and taking each day as it comes .Up till now the 2nd fill which I had on the 23rd April ,seems to be working till now. Will keep you posted.

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