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Developing new friendships is one way out of that. I have friends who races, in a group that does, then there are swimming meets, biking groups, meet some new people and make new friends. I also have healthy eating groups.

I do mean outside of your surgeon's area. Most of those I see are just simple things once a month or whatever. We need those who are going to keep us going and help 2 times a week or more.

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Ana Gram, this sentence just set off a lightbulb for me. Boredom is an emotion. I tend to think of emotion as sad, happy, angry, etc. I'll now ask myself, is this impulse this moment driven by a thought or not? Boredom isn't a thought, right? If it's not a thought, it's probably an emotion. Then I can feel the emotion, and take control of the thoughts that follow.

Ooh, we're gonna get so GOOD at this!

I had not made the connection that I was eating emotionally, I thought it was just boredom.

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These are such great awareness's! Boredom is a thought feeling state; meaning you have a state of mind about being bored (thoughts) and feelings associated with it. Ana Gram, since you ID associations of the word "boredom" with other thoughts like " feeling left out of activities that my family or friends are doing"

So go deeper with this; does this create feelings of loneliness or isolation/separation or not being loved, etc... Once you ID the core feeling(s) which you have already ID is not boredom but something deeper. Then ask yourself is this thought feeling state even true, really true right now in the present or is it like you said something brought up from your subconscious from child hood? Also just practice sitting with it.

This is going to sound funny; but get to know it. Where is the feeling in your body? How intense is it from a 1 to 10? What type of energy does it radiate if any? Become curious about the feelings. This is a form of meditation/mental focus. If you can stay focused long enough even ask it what it needs to go away. You will be amazed what you find out about yourself. Remember feelings are just blocked energy in your body created by thoughts/ belief structures instilled in you from child hood.

This process you are going through is so empowering.

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Yes, I will definitely spend more time working on this as this is where the weight loss battle is won or lost, in the battlefield of the mind. It will be an interesting exercise for me as we enter this Easter Holy Week, as I think that ultimately forgiveness will be what I need to release those hurts that continue from childhood so they no longer have the ability to influence my future behavior in negative ways.

These are such great awareness's! Boredom is a thought feeling state; meaning you have a state of mind about being bored (thoughts) and feelings associated with it. Ana Gram, since you ID associations of the word "boredom" with other thoughts like " feeling left out of activities that my family or friends are doing"

So go deeper with this; does this create feelings of loneliness or isolation/separation or not being loved, etc... Once you ID the core feeling(s) which you have already ID is not boredom but something deeper. Then ask yourself is this thought feeling state even true, really true right now in the present or is it like you said something brought up from your subconscious from child hood? Also just practice sitting with it.

This is going to sound funny; but get to know it. Where is the feeling in your body? How intense is it from a 1 to 10? What type of energy does it radiate if any? Become curious about the feelings. This is a form of meditation/mental focus. If you can stay focused long enough even ask it what it needs to go away. You will be amazed what you find out about yourself. Remember feelings are just blocked energy in your body created by thoughts/ belief structures instilled in you from child hood.

This process you are going through is so empowering.

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Prudence, wonderful article! Ana Gram, my experiences are similar. Just know that I love you for living today. You are precious. You are a gift to this world regardless of the ignorant people who abandoned you. Many souls understand your struggle and we're rooting for you. We wish we could hugggg you.

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