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I lost my mother today unexpectedly and I have no appetite. I just feel sick to my stomach. I am 4 months out and I know that this will be one of the hardest weeks of my life. If I don't get my Protein and Water in will I be in danger. Advice is welcome.

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my sympathy!!!...

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So sorry to hear this, Lyn. Such a profound loss! Do what you can do, eat anything that you can force yourself to get down--Protein bars, drinks, etc. I thought nuts might work too because there's a lot of Protein packed into a very small quantity.

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LynRN,

I am so sorry for your loss. I know the world is spinning right now and you won't believe me when I tell you that it will get better, but it will. I lost my Father unexpectedly 17 years ago. It was such a profound loss I thought I would never get over it. But day by day it gets easier, never fear though, it isn't easier because I don't think of him, it is easier because I do. Let me explain, those deep feeling of sadness eventually mature to moments of joy when you remember "Mom taught me that", or realize "Mom would have said this funny thing about that"... Even 17 years later as I sat watching the Super Bowl this year, I thought my Dad would have been texting me something funny because he hated the Seahawks, and it brought me joy. You will get there.

For now, embrace your grieving process, but remember your Mom would be encouraging you to take care of yourself. So do her proud, support yourself and your family through this tough time.

Hope this is helpful,

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LynRN, <br>

I am so sorry for your loss. I know the world is spinning right now and you won't believe me when I tell you that it will get better, but it will. I lost my Father unexpectedly 17 years ago. It was such a profound loss I thought I would never get over it. But day by day it gets easier, never fear though, it isn't easier because I don't think of him, it is easier because I do. Let me explain, those deep feeling of sadness eventually mature to moments of joy when you remember "Mom taught me that", or realize "Mom would have said this funny thing about that"... Even 17 years later as I sat watching the Super Bowl this year, I thought my Dad would have been texting me something funny because he hated the Seahawks, and it brought me joy. You will get there. <br><br>

For now, embrace your grieving process, but remember your Mom would be encouraging you to take care of yourself. So do her proud, support yourself and your family through this tough time. <br><br>

Hope this is helpful,

Thank you so much for your kind words. They mean more when they come from someone who's been there. This is going to be so hard but I know that with the help of The Lord and the support of my family, I will make it through this.

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I am so sorry. I lost both Mom and Dad a year apart about 1 1/.2 years ago. Remember to take deep breaths. You may need to make yourself eat and drink. Prayers are coming your way for you and your family.

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Thank you so much.

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Hi LynRN, Sending you hugs and praying for you today. I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my mom very unexpectantly a few years ago. She was a nurse, never sick and she suddenly had a heart attack and was gone. There was no preparation... I was in shock and it was so difficult. Looking through her bible, we found a poem about death and how wonderful it would be to be in the next world. It talked about loved ones not grieving because the ultimate gift of eternal life had been received. It changed my thoughts on her death and I knew I didn't want to deny her the reward she had so coveted. The hole in my heart has remained and I miss her dearly but I am really happy for my mom. I know from other posts that your family has struggled with health issues due to weight. Use your mom as inspiration in your weight loss journey and that will keep her in your heart on a daily basis. I know you don't feel like eating and drinking but I know your mom would want you to be healthy. Do it for her. Again, you and your family are in my prayers.

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I lost my 30 year old son 7 years ago at Thanksgiving. His birthday was December. I go into panic mode in November. I am so sorry for the loss of your dear Mother. I wish mine were still here. Somehow we all survive the losses in our family, God helps us through the tough times, with a lot of prayer. Keeping busy during the holidays helps me cope, even 7 years later. Your Mother would want you to be thinking of your health right now. The pain is horrible for you right now, but it comforts me knowing my loved ones are in a beautiful place called heaven. God Bless and God's Grace. Linda

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