SydneySweetHeart 21 Posted March 29, 2014 I have been working hard and I have lost 25 pounds but today I went to my grandmothers house and the first thing she says to me is that I look FATTER!! I wanted to cry. I had my surgery 2 weeks ago. I had lost 13 with the 2 week pre op diet and lost 12 the first week after surgery and the second I haven't lost any. So the mix of not losing weight and being told I look fatter my self confidence is lower then it has been ever before. 1 Dondie Olivia reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
CrazyJaney 775 Posted March 29, 2014 Sweet girl, all grandmothers are crazy. You are doing fabulous! This is for you, not anyone else!!!! Keep up the good work! 1 ProudGrammy reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
LI Gemini NY 607 Posted March 29, 2014 Did you tell her to go sit her old azz down somewhere?!?! Lol jk Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
SydneySweetHeart 21 Posted March 29, 2014 Sweet girl, all grandmothers are crazy. You are doing fabulous! This is for you, not anyone else!!!! Keep up the good work! Thank you. And grandmothers are crazy and I can't let her get to me. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
SydneySweetHeart 21 Posted March 29, 2014 Did you tell her to go sit her old azz down somewhere?!?! Lol jk Hahaha If only I had the guts. She is the most controlling person I have ever met. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
BellaHugz 331 Posted March 29, 2014 I agree with the others Grandma's and relatives can be harsh on you.. Forgive her and move on, take photos of yourself each week and measurements too. Then when someone says anything too you, you will have your own proof and you will not have prove anything to them. Yes, it can mess with your mind, if you let it. Just wait until summer and surprise her again! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
SydneySweetHeart 21 Posted March 29, 2014 <p>I agree with the others Grandma's and relatives can be harsh on you.. Forgive her and move on, take photos of yourself each week and measurements too. Then when someone says anything too you, you will have your own proof and you will not have prove anything to them. Yes, it can mess with your mind, if you let it. Just wait until summer and surprise her again!</p> She has a pool so I will be showing of for sure. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Dondie Olivia 56 Posted March 29, 2014 That explains a lot. She wanted you to feel bad because you didn't do things the way she wanted. I say, grab a cup of Decaf teas (yuck), put your feet up and contemplate the fact that you will be a deciding factor which nursing home she moves into. Did you tell her to go sit her old azz down somewhere?!?! Lol jk Hahaha If only I had the guts. She is the most controlling person I have ever met. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
SydneySweetHeart 21 Posted March 29, 2014 <p>That explains a lot. She wanted you to feel bad because you didn't do things the way she wanted. </p> <p>I say, grab a cup of Decaf teas (yuck), put your feet up and contemplate the fact that you will be a deciding factor which nursing home she moves into. I can't stop laughing at the last part. Maybe I should tell her that next time she makes a rude comment. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
changetocome2014 37 Posted March 29, 2014 Some people find it difficult to let others be happy and co tribute to them being happy and becoming a better person.... Don't let ANYONE hold u back or discourage u!!( especially not family who should be there n support u!) u should be happy with it success so far and it's gonna get even better!!!!!! It's only beginning!!! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ProudGrammy 8,322 Posted March 29, 2014 (edited) all grandmothers are crazy @@CrazyJaney i was smiling/laughing at your comment, then i said to myself wait a minute.............. i'm a grandmother!!!! so....on behalf of me and all the other grandma & grandpas - we are not ALL crazy!! just a select few!! @@Dondie Olivia you better not be thinking of any nursing home for me kiddo!!!! LOL @@SydneySweetHeart back to topic Sydney, what a hurtful thing your grandma said!!! if she's anything like my mother (or many others)the slip of the tongue and insensitive things like that come out without thinking!! its no excuse (especially for my mother) they just say those kinds of things i think they really don't realize how critical/"mean" they are and these comments, and many more, are very hurtful to you/me/all of us as difficult as it is, easier said than done..... i "try" and take things with a grain of salt, let it slide off my back at the age of 83, my mom will never change how about your grandmother?? gotta love 'em great weight loss congrats keep up the good job for the rest of your healthier, happier, longer life kathy Edited March 29, 2014 by proudgrammy 1 Dondie Olivia reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
CrazyJaney 775 Posted March 29, 2014 all grandmothers are crazy @@CrazyJaney i was smiling/laughing at your comment, then i said to myself wait a minute.............. i'm a grandmother!!!! so....on behalf of me and all the other grandma & grandpas - we are not ALL crazy!! just a select few!! @@Dondie Olivia you better not be thinking of any nursing home for me kiddo!!!! LOL @@SydneySweetHeart back to topic Sydney, what a hurtful thing your grandma said!!! if she's anything like my mother (or many others)the slip of the tongue and insensitive things like that come out without thinking!! its no excuse (especially for my mother) they just say those kinds of things i think they really don't realize how critical/"mean" they are and these comments, and many more, are very hurtful to you/me/all of us as difficult as it is, easier said than done..... i "try" and take things with a grain of salt, let it slide off my back at the age of 83, my mom will never change how about your grandmother?? gotta love 'em great weight loss congrats keep up the good job for the rest of your healthier, happier, longer life kathy All of them except of you Grammy! Just kidding. Not all of them. But sometimes I think out parents and grandparents can only see what they want to. I had a controlling great grandmother who lived to be 101 and told everyone what to do. She always commented on weight, except she thought being thin was the equivalent of death. I was fine but my sister was "sick". But I'm sure I'm way exaggerating the "all grandparents" part! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
khaske1 14 Posted February 17, 2015 My grandfather called me hippopotamus, fat butt my entire life, he's the one paying out of pocket for my surgery. I love him so much but he does say some blunt hurtful things. I just take it as motivation. But another thing I think is when I start loosing weight I look heavier because my giant stomach roll becomes like 3 smaller rolls. Idk haha maybe that will help Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ProudGrammy 8,322 Posted February 17, 2015 (edited) all grandmothers are crazy. All of them except of you Grammy! Just kidding.@@CrazyJaney no offense taken:o) 121 lbs down!!!! you are aces bud!!! keep up the good work maybe i'm a little crazy around the edges!!!! but who isn't ??? LOLOLOLOL kathy Edited February 17, 2015 by proudgrammy Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
