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Crazy Dad! Dont he know Im almost 40?



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Last night after getting home from work and I finally just get to sleep my dad calls. My step mom had saw about my future surgery on FB. She wakes him up to tell him. He calls and just goes off on me telling me all kinds of stuff like I'm going to die , to exercise, push away from the table, ect. Ect. After explaining about an hour I finally calm him down. Now he wants SPECIFICS..LOL..I KNOWbeing a parent you worry about your kids but geezzz I'm big enough to make my own decisions!!! Now at work for 13 hour shift on 4 hours sleep. Think I need to silence my phone at night:))

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I told my brother this week. He is concerned that it is so drastic and can not be reversed. (sleeve) I sent him this site and the Dr website to check out. He called yesterday to talk about it. At least he is really taking an interest in the procedure and not judging or giving negative input. (that is at the moment) lol. I only see him once or twice a year. One of his questions (which is a good one) How much does it normally run on all of the Vitamins you have to take for the month? I am still in the process of getting all of my testing.

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Be grateful you are soooo loved! LOL I know it is stressful. I'm 47 and my parents are the same way. Once they see you are ok and you know what you are doing they will be more accepting....But I must confess: We are the parents of a 20 year old daughter and she will ALWAYS be our baby girl. :D

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I think it is a natural reaction by loved ones to worry. It would be truly sad if they did not care...But that being said there is one thing I wish everyone knew pre op and that is LIFE GOES ON. I am not saying that complications cannot happen. As with any surgery ( esp. MAJOR surgery) things can happen. But for the vast majority of sleeve patients once you heal life continues. Yes, we do have to be more aware of our bodies. But isn't that the point? We still eat. We still sleep. We still use the bathroom. We still love and we still live. The sleeve may or may not effect every aspect of these things, but life continues. I know going in I was very sure my whole entire life would change once I had the surgery. Many aspects have changed. (99% for the better) But bottom line is we will live with this for the rest of our lives. The key is learning to "live". I am five months out and I now know this is my life. It is better now since I don't have as much excess weight to contend with. ( still have a way to go to goal) I still have the same job, same house, same bills, same family. I just no longer have the same body. It is important that everyone realizes life goes on.....

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Be grateful you are soooo loved! LOL I know it is stressful. I'm 47 and my parents are the same way. Once they see you are ok and you know what you are doing they will be more accepting....But I must confess: We are the parents of a 20 year old daughter and she will ALWAYS be our baby girl. :D

I understand this. My daughter is 18 and as of January just gave me my second grandbabie. I must confess to being a ' Daddy's girl' I don't think that stops no matter how old you are. He has calmed down a little. Knows I'm not the type to just jump into anything without facts.

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