Not as unhappy as I used to be

[cda97 63]

Since the beginning of last year I have lost 75 lbs. I have 57 more to go to make it to my Drs goal weight for me and 75 to the weight I'd really like to reach. The thing is in every attempt to lose weight, like this one, I get to a point where I'm not that unhappy with myself. I want to lose more but am pretty happy with myself now (compared to where I was before) so it's hard to find the motivation to work out and plan healthier meals. It gets easier to focus on the kids, house, etc then myself. Anyone else have these points in time? I'm hoping with warmer weather I will find renewed motivation to step things up and stay on track to finding an even healthier me. Any suggestions for keeping at it?

[pink dahlia 2,513]

I think alot of parents put the kids and house 1st, and themselves last because the kids and house are generally more important and time consuming than our own needs. Parents often come in last place when it comes to time and money spent on themselves, or they feel guilty for saying no to the kids and then saying yes to themselves. But for your healthy future and being a healthy parent I think you might want to see your self as being a good example of a parent who takes care of themself, so that they can take care of the family too. Good luck !

[ErinMarie 186]

Maybe try setting some small goals to work towards or give yourself a nice reward (like a spa day) to help sweeten the goal!

[☠carolinagirl☠ 18,721]

Since the beginning of last year I have lost 75 lbs. I have 57 more to go to make it to my Drs goal weight for me and 75 to the weight I'd really like to reach. The thing is in every attempt to lose weight, like this one, I get to a point where I'm not that unhappy with myself. I want to lose more but am pretty happy with myself now (compared to where I was before) so it's hard to find the motivation to work out and plan healthier meals. It gets easier to focus on the kids, house, etc then myself. Anyone else have these points in time? I'm hoping with warmer weather I will find renewed motivation to step things up and stay on track to finding an even healthier me. Any suggestions for keeping at it?

yes i think we all get/feel this way and excellent job on the loss so far..

this winter for me and many others has been rough and def a damper..

but the motivation you need and one simply to remember is where you were physically/weight/size wise when you started on your WLS journey..its so easy for you gain that weight back so dont...dont do it...you know what to do.....eat great foods, exercise and stay positive....warm weather or not........my suggestion is one i use myself.....i have a picture of me and my hub wearing a skirt together that i wore by myself...and if that dont encourage me, nothing will...

hang in there okay.....

[Bandista 7,466]

Choose yourself first and every one around you will benefit! I have to tell myself this every single day and it is finally working. Think of it this way, only we can save our own lives. Let's show up for ourselves and feel that balance of health and happiness. Best wishes, and thank you for the reminder. It's easy to spin off course so I just have to keep reminding myself....I'm choosing me.

[cda97 63]

I was at the gym when it opened at 6 am this morning. I'm planning to make this a weekday habit. Yes, it's one day down but it is another accomplishment for the new me. Every positive decision is a step in the right direction. Hope you all are taking positive steps!

[Jack 855]

Pardon me, as I'm sure you meant this phrase in a positive way, and you certainly have achieved incredible success.

And I don't disagree with your observations as I too am one who shares similar notions....yet the very words strike me very similar to "I'm almost not as broke as I used to be".

Being of Scandinavian/Russian ancestry, I am very familiar with our family-clan methods of suppressing the expression of JOY and happiness. I'm even willing to allow that possibly our DNA strands have crushed by the polar winters & months of darkness, such that laughter and dancing are simply incompatible with my normal behavior.

Still, the closely phrased conditional kind of JOY I'd actually like to express would require something like painting myself fluorescent blue and dancing about the village square in my thong, given the results you quote.

Celebrating VICTORY by such cautious words is part of my own preOp Old Life that continues to motivate me.

Cheers on your journey!!!!

[SandyM 1,956]

I have felt the same thing. But each additional step of the journey makes me a little happier with myself. Good luck and I agree with setting small goals, that way you won't become complacent