Frustrated...

[dharriott 37]

So my surgery was Wednesday, and the hospital I had it in is over 2 hours away. We get home yesterday and tonight my husband makes a huge meal of grilled steaks, baked potatoes with all the fixings.. (My very favorite meal). Am I wrong for feeling that this is completely insensitive on his part? I understand people have to eat but this has upset me terribly.

[Sassy Pants1 186]

Feelings aren't wrong. But you will need to get used to people doing their own thing. Just because you had surgery shouldn't change anyone else's behavior. You will be able to have steak and bakers in a couple months. Hang in there!

[katesuccess 990]

No kidding--and yes, I think that's insensitive! It would leave me hurt and kind of alone feeling at a scary tender time. Don't keep it all in - tell him how you feel. He doesn't have to change his eating because you had surgery, but the first few days might warrant a bit more thoughtfulness. Also he may well just be eating his favorite comfort food to attempt to comfort his own feelings of fear and panic, or relief that you made it through. I'd hate to guess, but he may not realize what a wart he's being. That's just cold! While it's true your surgery doesn't necessarily change someone else's behavior, I'd expect my beloved to be a bit more sensitive the first week anyway.

Good luck, and remember how much of a good thing you've just done for YOUR body, and how you took control of a good decision for your health. It'll be paying off well enough that i'll bet steak and potatoes pale in comparison soon! Besides, you'll be able to have them in the future too.