Paige23 2 Posted March 20, 2014 Guess I won't be joining you guys yet. My hubby has a real problem with me doing this surgery. I think I need to postpone. So I'm crying and really upset about this. I don't think I will bf able to forgive him for this. I feel like he wants to keep me fat. I know that's crazy. But my emotions are really getting the best of me that I want to stuff my face. What should I do??? Oh hunny, if there is anything we can do we are all here for you. I won't get involved in your marriage, but you deserve to be happy. I hope things work out. Know that we are here for you. 1 Sboulie reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Bluesea71 698 Posted March 20, 2014 Guess I won't be joining you guys yet. My hubby has a real problem with me doing this surgery. I think I need to postpone. So I'm crying and really upset about this. I don't think I will bf able to forgive him for this. I feel like he wants to keep me fat. I know that's crazy. But my emotions are really getting the best of me that I want to stuff my face. What should I do??? Only you can make the decision that is right for you and your family. My significant other was initially opposed to me having WLS. He successfully lost over 70 pounds on his own in 2011 and has kept it off. He didn't see why I couldn't do the same. What finally convinced him was taking him to the orientation class with me at the hospital where I'm having surgery. They encouraged us to bring our family members and it helped! He was impressed with how holistic their approach was - I would have a team of dietitians, nurses, educators, doctors supporting me on this journey pre-surgery until 3 years plus out! There were a lot of classes I needed to take before my surgery day to prepare. I wasn't jumping on the surgery table the next day! Now if I told him I was flying to Mexico to have the surgery, he would likely have me committed. There are too many unknown variables there and I wouldn't have the bariatric team to support me post-surgery. 1 Sboulie reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
karensdRN 13 Posted March 20, 2014 Having it at Scripps Green with Fuller. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
karensdRN 13 Posted March 20, 2014 I'm In sd too. What hospital? Scripps La Jolla with Dr. Bhoyrul. You? Green with Fuller Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
green*eyed*girl 170 Posted March 20, 2014 Guess I won't be joining you guys yet. My hubby has a real problem with me doing this surgery. I think I need to postpone. So I'm crying and really upset about this. I don't think I will bf able to forgive him for this. I feel like he wants to keep me fat. I know that's crazy. But my emotions are really getting the best of me that I want to stuff my face. What should I do??? Oh how sad is that... You were doing so well, lost over 40pounds already! In life sometimes you have to be selfish and put yourself first. When was the last time you really took care of yourself? Don't let him Detour you! I say go for it, do it for yourself and everything else will fall into it's places... 1 Sboulie reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
gettinbacktome 104 Posted March 20, 2014 Sboulie77 I'm married and I do understand where you are coming from. You don't want to go against your hubby. You have think to yourself have you tried everything healthy to lose weight? If you have and you believe this is your best option I agree sometimes you have to do what's best for you. Take him to the meeting to discuss the surgery that's if he's open to it. If he has reservations he should be open. He needs to know the sleeve is not a quick fix. Yes you will lose faster than normal but keeping it off is truly up to you. Exercise watching what you eat you will still need to do. Ask him to attend a meeting and ask questions. My hubby is open to me having surgery but I also want him to attend just to be prepared for the changes. I wish you the best either way. 1 Sboulie reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Malsr 49 Posted March 20, 2014 Guess I won't be joining you guys yet. My hubby has a real problem with me doing this surgery. I think I need to postpone. So I'm crying and really upset about this. I don't think I will bf able to forgive him for this. I feel like he wants to keep me fat. I know that's crazy. But my emotions are really getting the best of me that I want to stuff my face. What should I do??? This is a hard one. I can't give you advice on what's to do especially if it'll affect your marriage. I can just say that if my husband was not supportive I would have the surgery regardless. My first priority is me and my health. If my husband were to disappear tomorrow (literally or figuratively) I still have my life to live and I want it to be as healthy as possible. I have had a weight issue all my life and being married doesn't fix that. You have to decide what's more important to you. Is it taking what you feel are the necessary steps to achieving a healthy weight, or is it keeping your relationship on an even keel? 2 melodyrene77 and Sboulie reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Ndipilato 50 Posted March 20, 2014 Just went today to see the surgeon and anesthesia! Everything is all set, next 2 1/2 he drive will be for actually surgery. Less than 2 wks, can't believe it's almost here and can't wait!! 1 ladybug's journey reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
melodyrene77 7 Posted March 20, 2014 Hi live in Texas and my surgery date is April 9th, I don't seem to be feeling much at this point. I had to do a lot of test to get ready. Reading all the post from everyone make feel confident in knowing everything is going to be alright. Good luck to all the April sleeved......I am excited through..yea... Mytime, I live in Texas too! Small town of Winnsboro in northeast Texas. My surgeon is in the Dallas area. Where are you? i am being sleeved in April also in Dallas at Forest Park Msfitn2014, who's your surgeon? Mine is Dr Holden from Kim Bariatrics. My surgery will be at Baylor Trophy Club. I go for my EGD in 3 weeks, srt my liquid also that day, then surgery in 5 weeks from today!! It is getting real! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
She's_Sleeved 93 Posted March 20, 2014 I just got home from my first appointment with my surgeon and got all the initial test's done in office. I have my psych eval on March 26th and my surgery is scheduled for Friday, April 4th. I don't have to go to all the classes such as nutrition since I am self pay. I have to start my liquid diet tomorrow. Holy Shit this is really happening! I am so excited!! 1 beeteroo reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
StephsJourney 19 Posted March 21, 2014 I'm so excited! Happy to be here. I am Stephanie, from New York and I was just given my surgery date. April 23rd! I am really hoping all of my pre surgical testing goes smoothly and we can continue on with his date. 1 green*eyed*girl reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
butterfly2014 128 Posted March 21, 2014 I'm so excited! Happy to be here. I am Stephanie, from New York and I was just given my surgery date. April 23rd! I am really hoping all of my pre surgical testing goes smoothly and we can continue on with his date. Hi Steph! My surg date was April 30 and found out today since I'm done with all my test, only need final nutrition class which is April 4...now my surg date has been moved up to April 23!!! I'm super pumped and excited! Best wishes on your wls journey! 2 StephsJourney and ladybug's journey reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jacquelynndiaz 42 Posted March 21, 2014 Guess I won't be joining you guys yet. My hubby has a real problem with me doing this surgery. I think I need to postpone. So I'm crying and really upset about this. I don't think I will bf able to forgive him for this. I feel like he wants to keep me fat. I know that's crazy. But my emotions are really getting the best of me that I want to stuff my face. What should I do??? Don't postpone! You deserve to be a healthy you and live many more years!!! He is not stopping you from doing this because he loves you! If he really loved u he would want you to get healthy so you could be with him for many more years! Please really think about what's best for you! Put yourself first' 1 Sboulie reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
StephsJourney 19 Posted March 21, 2014 I'm so excited! Happy to be here. I am Stephanie, from New York and I was just given my surgery date. April 23rd! I am really hoping all of my pre surgical testing goes smoothly and we can continue on with his date. Hi Steph! My surg date was April 30 and found out today since I'm done with all my test, only need final nutrition class which is April 4...now my surg date has been moved up to April 23!!! I'm super pumped and excited! Best wishes on your wls journey! My original date was April 28th. I then realized that we have tickets to see Les Mis on Broadway on April 30th. I was so upset that I thought I was going to have to push the surgery out until May. When I called and found out I could have the 23rd of April I was thrilled! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
happygirlforlife 34 Posted March 21, 2014 Hi everyone ... I just had to share i got a call that my surgery date is april14 officially!! All i have left id my pre op at the hospital! Im so excited !!! I am amazed from all your post how differently all the places due things.. But we all have the sane mission to help us get to a healthy weight and live the life we want to live.. I am glad to know i have so many of u out there to discuss all this with 2 green*eyed*girl and She's_Sleeved reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites