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[lapper32014 42]

I've been very select to whom I tell about my surgery. My boyfriend has been skeptical but supportive. Well I decided to tell my mom and my nephew. Well needless to say all I heard was people die from those things, just stop eating, it's not going to work or you will do good for a few months then gain it back or just exercise. I was hurt but got mad. I finally said it's going to happen and my mind is made up. I didn't say it in an ugly fashion. My children are supportive and the 3 other people I did tell.

From this point forward I will not tell a soul. I told my boyfriend to not take any time off from work. I will do this alone. He was not happy but I know he will make sure I follow the doctors orders to a T. (Ex-military) and have me exercising daily.

[2muchfun 8,927]

I heard similar complaints. If they could only realize how many people die from obesity. Far, far more die from obesity and obesity related illnesses.

[jamilyne 102668 1,207]

I understand how you feel. You tell whoever you think will be supportive, if not - don't talk about it. You need people to lift you up and not bring you down! There are some people that understand and some people that don't. Unless someone has been obese, most likely they don't understand. You do this for you! You have made a decision to change your life for the better. I do not regret one minute me having wls. I am going to say that you will not either.

I wish you the very best of luck and if you need someone to be supportive, just log onto here and we will support you!

[betty_s 476]

I had the same reaction from most people. Or the fake "you don't look like you need THAT". screw 'em. If you're finally ready to make this change, that's all that matters. I told a few too many people and have regretted it, now when they bring up the upcoming surgery, I just basically blow 'em off.

[enjoythetime 1,457]

I remember telling someone I was thinking of having the surgery and them telling me not to tell anybody just in case I failed. I stood there dumbfounded on how to respond to that so I just didn't but right there in that instant I told myself I WAS GOING TO SUCCEED NO MATTER WHAT and every time I have a craving or feel discouraged those words ring in my head and that determination (and stuborness in my case) came through and got me through. So actually even though this isn't ok to say to someone it's probably been the best thing for me.

You will do great! Keep your head up and surround yourself with positive people! Best wishes!

Edited March 6, 2014 by enjoythetime

[fatty2hottie 57]

I didn't tell anyone but my husband about my surgery. So glad I did it this way. I told my mom 2 days after and she was supportive and agreed that I shouldn't have told her before because she probably would have worried too much and talked me out of it. I haven't told anyone else. I feel like this is my journey. I don't need anyone else's input.

[Lumpy 18]

I didn't tell anyone but my husband about my surgery. So glad I did it this way. I told my mom 2 days after and she was supportive and agreed that I shouldn't have told her before because she probably would have worried too much and talked me out of it. I haven't told anyone else. I feel like this is my journey. I don't need anyone else's input.

You just do what you want and need to do. I'm very open and tell everyone because I can't lie and act like I lost 100 lbs on my own. Of course, I did everything right, but without my tool, it would've been impossible. I'm not too proud. It is what it is. I'm proud that I have accomplished my goal even if it took some assistance. I healthy 80 lbs lighter and happy. Good luck!

I've been very select to whom I tell about my surgery. My boyfriend has been skeptical but supportive. Well I decided to tell my mom and my nephew. Well needless to say all I heard was people die from those things, just stop eating, it's not going to work or you will do good for a few months then gain it back or just exercise. I was hurt but got mad. I finally said it's going to happen and my mind is made up. I didn't say it in an ugly fashion. My children are supportive and the 3 other people I did tell.

From this point forward I will not tell a soul. I told my boyfriend to not take any time off from work. I will do this alone. He was not happy but I know he will make sure I follow the doctors orders to a T. (Ex-military) and have me exercising daily.

[Leepers 1,195]

Just today I was thinking how I wish I hadn't told people I got the band. I feel like it downplays all of the hard work I have put into losing my 47 pounds as of today. Not that it really matters though. I am on a course to change my life for good and you will be too, soon. Don't let anyone deter you.

[kayzoog 129]

I told everyone on my Facebook page. I made that decision because I really don't want it to be a secret . I haven't gotten any negativity. In fact three people private messages me saying they had gotten it too and are happy they did. I had two others message me that they were considering it. Don't get me wrong, I was nervous to say anything, but super happy I did!

It's everyone's own choice to tell or not.

K

[lapper32014 42]

Getting the band shouldn't down play any effort because you still have to put in the work. It still takes working out,discipline and a life change. Well my mind is made up its going to happen.

[enjoythetime 1,457]

Just today I was thinking how I wish I hadn't told people I got the band. I feel like it downplays all of the hard work I have put into losing my 47 pounds as of today. Not that it really matters though. I am on a course to change my life for good and you will be too, soon. Don't let anyone deter you.

Leepers I felt the same way, this was actually one of the reasons I waited so long to get the surgery, but boy was I wrong. We work very hard to make the right choices and discipline ourselves and we are the reason for our success but it took me getting the band to understand that. Dont let anyone take the hardwork you've done away because YOU earned this!!! Great job!

[JustWatchMe 7,117]

I've told my mom, my best friend, my two teen daughters and my husband. That's all. Nobody else will know. The world may look at the band as the easy way out, but that doesn't mean I need to hear that opinion from others while I work my tail off changing everything in my life. And I know it will be work. food has been my source of joy. As my evaluating psychologist said, I need to figure out what else can give me joy. As my surgeon said, I'll need new hobbies instead of eating. He recommended buying shoes or gambling. I think he was only half kidding. Anyway, this is tough enough without the peanut gallery chiming in. I recently watched some episodes of My 600 Pound Life. How someone can watch that and not see the struggle people go through even with WLS is beyond me. Maybe shows like that will start to change attitudes. Till then, I'll get my support here and in the group meetings once a month at the surgical center.