No support from my family.....

[elfnow 277]

Just don't tell them. And when they see how much weight you're losing, tell them they were right, you just needed to "try harder."

Okay that's mean, and certainly doesn't spread the positive non-shame message of surgery...

Maybe then say, "try harder to ignore the $=!+ you say and do what's right for ME. If you have a problem with it, we don't need to talk about it."

I'm amazed at how many - women especially, it seems - look at WLS as "the easy way out". When you get down to it, it's not one iota easy! It's a lot of hard work, a lot of crazy changes in your body, a lot of careful planning, and YES a person can backslide!!

As for people saying "best decision EVAR" versus "OMG the pain and hell", take it with a grain of salt while you look at how far post-op they are. If you had asked me within my first 24 hours I would have been like "WTF DID I JUST DO OMG" and now I'll say "ugh this is hard with a stomach virus" (1 mo out), last night I would have said "what the hell is wrong with my stomach I feel like a pile of acidic poo and It sucks!" and in 3 months I might be like "awesome but wtf with the hair" or something totally different. It's like having kids, I think - there are these points (newborn stage, growth spurts, etc) where you are like "WHY DID I AGREE TO THIS" and other times you are like "OMG most magical thing ever"

[sunkissed 20]

At first my sister criticized me, about 2 weeks after surgery she was calling me to help her find out if her insurance covered it. No one has the right to criticize your decision, no one walks in your shoes except you. Go for it!