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hi,

im curious if Im the only one who has gone back and forth with my decision for the sleeve surgery? I do want the surgery but then I let my head talk me out of it and tell myself that I should keep trying it on my own and do better. Then a few weeks later Im giving up on doing it on my own. I just feel so hopeless that i would be able to lose any great amount of weight on my own and Im afraid Im wasting my time/months trying to diet like I always tried all these years. I need to just keep moving forward and not let me fears talk me out of it.

please tell me im not alone!! :(

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Don't be afraid, be educated! Move forward.

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I talked myself out of it 10 years ago when I was 75 pounds less. Same thing of talking myself out of surgery. You have to decide what is right for you. I will tell you for me it is the best thing I have ever done! If you can get over the fear it will be so worth it in the end. Good luck!!

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I was exactly like u ..I would change my mind not to have it. Then I would change to have it. This went on for about 2 months. What gave me the courage to have the surgery is soul searching. I had to admit to myself that getting on another diet was not the answer. As a matter of fact , I was actually exhausted to start another diet. I just felt overwhelmed. I wanted the surgery to help me keep off my weight..not just lose the weight. I have lost 42 pounds so far and I don't feel like I am on a diet. I eat healthy. Wls a tool to get and stay healthy .. Butwr have we have to do our part to get there with eating the right foods, getting some exercise in. Ps. I saw a physchologist pre and post op to help me with emotional eating. You will know if this is right for you.

Ps..I have no regrets...

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I was exactly like u ..I would change my mind not to have it. Then I would change to have it. This went on for about 2 months. What gave me the courage to have the surgery is soul searching. I had to admit to myself that getting on another diet was not the answer. As a matter of fact , I was actually exhausted to start another diet. I just felt overwhelmed. I wanted the surgery to help me keep off my weight..not just lose the weight. I have lost 42 pounds so far and I don't feel like I am on a diet. I eat healthy. Wls a tool to get and stay healthy .. Butwr have we have to do our part to get there with eating the right foods, getting some exercise in. Ps. I saw a physchologist pre and post op to help me with emotional eating. You will know if this is right for you.

Ps..I have no regrets...

I know exactly how you feel when you said you were just exhausted. i have mentally exhausted myself over this and at times I just break down and cry! I am done! I will go forward with this... ill just need drugs to get me there without a nervous breakdown!! lol

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Hi girlie girl,

I too have questioned it, mostly the risk factor of a revision surgery. I did have success with the band but as we have all discovered it doesn't work long term. My deciding factor is something I have heard my surgeon say quite a few times. He said statistically people with a morbidly obese BMI will never have sustained long term weight loss, unless they have weight loss surgery (WLS). That's why most of us are still battling weight after a lapband failure. That point alone made my decision. The research and statistics say I will not be able to maintain a healthy weight without WLS.

Please note, my surgeon has said this to me numerous times, I have not seen this research. My revision surgery is booked for April 9. (I had my band removed 5 months ago)

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I had a lap band 10 years ago. I am 6'2" and went from 324 lbs down to 220 llbs and maintained that weight for 8 years without even dieting. About a year ago it failed and started leaking. I am good at losing weight but I suck at keeping it off. The band worked well for that until now. I have regained most of the weight in a little over a year. The struggle with my insurance company and being retired took a while. I can't keep doing this to myself. I am 54 years old now and decided that my long term health and life is more important than being able to eat big wonderful meals. My wife is an incredible cook. My surgeon is the same one that I had for the lap-band and we have seen each other regularly for the last 10 years. I would have had the sleeve surgery 10 years ago but it wasn't available like today. I have other health problems with my esophagus and stomach that finally got the insurance company to approve it, because my BMI is under 40. These problems aren't related to the band and I had them before the band implant in 2004. I can't exercise the way that I need to because of back problems now, and knee and shoulder joint problems, so working it off is not an option. This is it. I have to make this work.

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