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So, I have a VERY inappropriate boss that likes to get up in my personal space. I really should report her. I will eventually...maybe.... Anyway.

It was my first day back to work today, and as I suspected, she came and talked with me. The very first words out of her mouth were, "Well, let's see!!"

Me: Are_you_kidding_me.jpg

Not sure if she was talking about my scars or my weight loss. Hello, woman!!! I didn't get liposuction!!! Hahaha!

Then she started talking about future diets and how hard it's gonna be (like she really knows! She's a beanpole!). She said, "You're gonna have to work really, really hard! It's not going to be a magic fix!"

Me: 9b3.png

Hahahaha!!! Sorry for the memes. They've just been in my head today. :)

I just think it's funny! I used to get upset by her comments, but now I'm just like, "Oooh! What are you going to say today!"

Am I alone in this, or do any of you have inappropriate bosses? :)

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How about a reply like, "I'm not really sure what it is you want to see, but that's just weird. And while I appreciate your insightfullness, I've got this, thanks ... then just walk away....

Her behavior in a management related position is totally unacceptable. If she says stuff in front of other people, repeat yourself, "while I appreciate your insightful input, I've got this, thanks." If she doesn't stop, I would report her. Ignorant...

Stay focused & keep that positive attitude.

Good luck!

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Go to HR. A manager should know better....it's not like she's just another co-worker. I've gotten tons of comments at work..some inappropriate in my opinion (like asking how I lost the weight) but my manager has not said a word...not a single word. He's not blind, he's just smart and keeps his mouth shut.

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I have an in appropriate boss-which is why I didn't tell him! :P. I'm sorry you have to deal with this-I know how stressful it can be....and you don't need any added stress! Good luck!

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Sorry about your boss! My boss has been great but she is generally awesome! But your post did me make me lol! That face of "you don't say" gets me every time! Lol!

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I would suggest keeping a datebook w/her comments and the date she said them. Just in case it escalates and you want back up if you have to go to HR. I'm sure she doesn't say these things in front of others. Good luck and your going to look amazing when you hit goal.

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I agree with the others that she could be in deep if she doesn't back off. I'm a boss. You never, ever, ever make comments, offer opinions on an employees physical appearance (unless it's work related) unless you want your company to be sued. I'd talk to HR right away and nip it quick or you'll be miserable. You shouldn't have to deal with that. You've worked your tail off. Who the hell is she to tell you what you already know?! Grrrr

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I'm not sure if any of you are still subscribed to this post, but today she compared me to a starving child in Africa because of my large eyes and sallow cheeks........... Oh yeah! That's me! Hahaha! Next time she says something, I should be like, oh yeah? Well you look like Yzma! The reference would totally be lost on her though! Hahaha!

As an update, though, I did finally tell her boss! She hasn't brought it up with her, but I think I'm okay with that! It was just relieving to tell her! :) Thanks for listening, guys!

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