people see an amazing transformation..but not me

[abarta83 118]

I recently posted a full body pic of myself before a business meeting to my Facebook..I've got a bunch of private messages asking me how I lost "the weight" why do I feel proud and surprised and offended at the same time? Like..they weeny supposed to notice how big I was to begin with..and..I feel like I pretty much look the same..plus these are property I don't see or talk to and suddenly want to know my secret..

[abarta83 118]

Lol..weren't not weeny..lol

[gowalking 10,790]

I recently posted a full body pic of myself before a business meeting to my Facebook..I've got a bunch of private messages asking me how I lost "the weight" why do I feel proud and surprised and offended at the same time? Like..they weeny supposed to notice how big I was to begin with..and..I feel like I pretty much look the same..plus these are property I don't see or talk to and suddenly want to know my secret..

I've been seeing a therapist to deal with my body image issues. I've lost 117 lbs. in just over a year and I get tons of comments. I see the negatives though, not the positives. I have alot of excess skin and thank goodness no one sees me naked. I have a turkey neck and hate looking at myself in the mirror. If I could, I'd have a facelift tomorrow. I so understand your conflicting feelings...yes I look better but the compliments also make me feel like what was wrong with me before? I was just heavier...not meaner or nastier. I was a nice person before and a nice person now. I'm hoping people start to get used to my new size and then just stop mentioning it. Good luck to you.

[Teachamy 1,042]

It's a weird world, isn't it? Our own body image and negative self-talk for so many years really makes us feel weird when we start to look thinner. I say if you're comfortable sharing, share. If not, tell them how you lost it--you restricted unnecessary calories and you started to move. No one needs to know about the sleeve if you don't care to share. No one on my FB knows, except an old acquaintance who also was sleeved!

Edited March 4, 2014 by Teachamy

[BellaHugz 331]

I recently posted a full body pic of myself before a business meeting to my Facebook..I've got a bunch of private messages asking me how I lost "the weight" why do I feel proud and surprised and offended at the same time? Like..they weeny supposed to notice how big I was to begin with..and..I feel like I pretty much look the same..plus these are property I don't see or talk to and suddenly want to know my secret..

Well you need to share a pic of you here too!! Just remember they are trying to make you feel good, but some people you really dont care if they notice or not. So I would say adjust who can see your new photos on FB, ie: make them your photos for friends you know and trust.

[SlowlybutSurely 73]

I'm sure you knew you would get those type questions when you posted the picture so it shouldn't have been a surprise. People often ask those questions because they too want to lose weight and are struggling and are all seeking some big "secret" to achieving their weight loss goals. I do understand though that most people don't want to post that they had WLS on the FB page. I don't think those people meant any harm in asking you those types of questions. Maybe you should explore more your reaction to their comments.

Edited March 4, 2014 by BamaBoo64

[abarta83 118]

My reaction I think was wanting to keep it private from people who don't even talk to me on a regular basis or been on my Facebook for years and never spoke before..lol..there are people on my face book who know about the surgery who knew well enough to keep it to themselves as well so im grateful for those friends who stick with a "keep up the good work!"

[abarta83 118]

And their reaction was a surprise..to me I look very similar to pre-op..so I wasn't expecting the weight loss inquiries..maybe I need a reality check! LOL

[abarta83 118]

Ill share it Bella, next time i get on my laptop.my phone is being disfinctional!! :+(

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I recently posted a full body pic of myself before a business meeting to my Facebook..I've got a bunch of private messages asking me how I lost "the weight" why do I feel proud and surprised and offended at the same time? Like..they weeny supposed to notice how big I was to begin with..and..I feel like I pretty much look the same..plus these are property I don't see or talk to and suddenly want to know my secret..

Well you need to share a pic of you here too!! Just remember they are trying to make you feel good, but some people you really dont care if they notice or not. So I would say adjust who can see your new photos on FB, ie: make them your photos for friends you know and trust.

[KayleeC14 159]

I think we all go through this when we start loosing a significant amount of weight. I personally feel the same, just can't eat as much and kicked old unhealthy habits to the curve. It took me a while to really stare at myself in the mirror and see a change. I am down 85 pounds and I still see myself as I did before I lost the weight. We all have that "AHHA" moments and they all come at different stages and multiple times. I have had TONS of people who I talk to on a regular basis and people I don't ask me questions about how I am loosing the weight and so on. I write a blog, I tell them to read my blog and come back with questions. There are only certain questions that get to me, and usually I blow a head gasket when they are asked. My blog is my therapist now days instead of people.