Told my 17 year old today

[irishcailin68 9]

Finally told my daughter about the surgery. She's really upset and doesn't understand why I can't just lose the weight without it. Tried to explain everything to her but she doesn't want to hear it. I told her how I'm really going to need her support and its not going to be easy.

[HHHappy 225]

Maybe you can print out some articles for her to read...and reread and reread. Here's one that I really like.

http://www.today.com/health/food-addicts-new-study-measures-out-control-eating-2D11988780

Edited March 1, 2014 by HHHappy

[McButterpants 2,846]

I think a lot of "nay saying" is lack of education. My dad was especially vocal about not wanting me to have the surgery. He cried and asked "Are you sure you can give up the foods you love?" "Are you sure it's come to this?"

I let him ask his questions and express his concerns. It wasn't easy because I just wanted support, not to get grilled with questions. But when I look back, he was trying to help me and he was trying to understand why someone would do this to themselves.

He now calls weight loss surgery "a necessary medical procedure". That makes me laugh - he is so supportive now. He asks questions now about my meals, how certain foods feel in my stomach, and can see when something doesn't sit well.

I hope your daughter comes around. She doesn't have the capacity or life experiences to know what you live thru every day - she's young. Be patient with her - I bet she does change her mind, it may take a while.

[BladeFox 235]

I have shared my desires with my teens since starting the process. However, when I told them today when my surgery was, my daughter was the only one that is most concerned because she thought they were going to cut my stomach wide open. My husband and son are concerned but not like my girl, so today we watched a surgery on youtube and she said, 'whew Mom, It seems pretty simple, that helped.' Plus, I treat it with less panic in my tone and behaviors. They want to take off school for the day and I even agreed to that to help them with their anxiety. I mean we are Mom and that's a big deal. See if you can have her watch some videos of the procedures and testimonials with you and see if that helps.

Good luck!