To tell or not to tell mom and dad....that is the question

[CrazyJaney 775]

Okay - Here is another 44yr old adult that did not tell her parents at first either! I had my consultation and Psych Evaluation and met with the nutritionist well before. I told my mom and sister in law first and then a few weeks later my dad. One of my mom's bst friends passed away from a bad gastric bypass (Several years ago) and I was very much afraid that she would try and talk me out of my decision. I have not told many of my friends or co-workers. The majority that know I am having surgery only know 1/2 of it. I told them I was having a hernia repaired.....then I will let the weightloss be an extra surprise. My surgery is Tuesady March 4th

Aren't we a funny bunch of 40 something's!!!! Best wishes to you Tuesday! I'm up next Thursday. Keep us posted!

I did tell my mom today. Overall it went way better than expected. I talked for a long time about all the prep work I'd done. I didn't let her have a word/question til I had told her everything. My sweet mom is a sub abuse therapist. EVERYTHING is seen from the psychological well being aspect. She's the sweetest person. She's also terrified of anything medical and of pain. She said all the right things and said she was happy for me. But there was resistance lurking beneath too. I think my preemptive strike with how much "self help" and soul searching I've done to get to this point helped push back her worry a little. She will automatically think this will fail. She was ready to tell me about someone's failure post surgery and I just went on talking. I acknowledged failure could happen but that I was willing to work hard. I could still feel the doubt hanging in the air though. All in all, it went well or better than expected.

Now, let's just get this show on the road!

[kdnhk 3]

I didn't tell my parents. They only saw me 5 months later. I was pleasantly surprised at how supportive they were.

[SaschiesMum 2]

I would love to tell my parents about my surgery, but in all reality I can not. I am 39 years old, and not afraid of what my parents would say. See my mum died of auto-immune hepatitis 5 years ago and my dad died of sudden cardiac arrest just over 2 years ago, so I can't tell them. Tell your parents, even if they question your decision to tell or not they need to know for most are there to support their children (even if they are parents themselves).

I have told ALL my doctors and 90% of my friends about my surgery and they are excited for me..