Back to the forum.. needing support

[honeydue29 38]

Hello everyone,

I had my surgery in Nov 2012. I was active on the forum until after surgery. 6 months after surgery my husband received orders to a new duty station and I no longer had the support of my surgeon and his staff. I tried to do it alone..... up until now. I am struggling with food choices, exercise and motivation. I can't do this alone and need support from a community that knows what I am going through. I am weighing in at 170 and have been stalled forever. I decided to become active again with the forum. I feel like a failure because I know what I am doing wrong.

[SugarFreeMe 293]

You've taken the first and most important step in reaching out. I haven't had my surgery yet, but I've read others say you need to go back to the beginning and start over again. Also I've seen others recommend this link as a re-start point after a long stall: http://www.5daypouchtest.com/index.html

Hang in there, you'll get going again.

[honeydue29 38]

Thank you for replying and giving me the link. I'm going to do the pouch test and start new. Thanks again.

You've taken the first and most important step in reaching out. I haven't had my surgery yet, but I've read others say you need to go back to the beginning and start over again. Also I've seen others recommend this link as a re-start point after a long stall: http://www.5daypouchtest.com/index.html

Hang in there, you'll get going again.

[SugarFreeMe 293]

Good luck, you'll have to let me know if it works. I just got my date today, so as of March 18th I'll be on the losers bench with the rest of you.

[music1618 879]

First welcome back to the group and my family and I thank you and your husband for service and you for loving and supporting him!

Now down to your post - I had surgery just a few months before you and as we continue to live this life and struggle daily with our food choices it is important to remember why we had the surgery to begin with.

I could say remember everyday is a new day and get back on program, but I know that is not what I want to hear when I struggle. I want to hear I am not alone in this struggle. When you look around you and see everyone eating "normal" and you sit there and best yourself up over everything you eat can feel lonely. You are not alone. I have fallen off the wagon many times and after beating myself up for several days I remember that it is wasted energy. I had to find and remind myself what was important and why I did this. That helps me during these hard times.

So make your mind up to stop beating yourself up and take it one food choice at a time. If you are making bad choices at every meal just start slowly and replace one meal with a rny approved meal. Then make it two meals and so on.

Finally start logging your food. It shows the truth in black and white. While you document your food - log your emotions and stresses during meals. When I did that I leaned that my issue was stopping at gas stations during work. I drive all day and when I would stop to use the restroom I would buy junk! I changed that habit by keeping good Snacks in my truck. The temptation was tough and I was not always successful at resisting, but recognizing your triggers is a big part of the war!

Good luck and remember we are all here and behind you!!

[honeydue29 38]

Good luck, you'll have to let me know if it works. I just got my date today, so as of March 18th I'll be on the losers bench with the rest of you.

Thank you and good luck with your upcoming surgery. I don't regret it at all.

[honeydue29 38]

Hello, thank you for replying to me and I want to that you for your support for the military, that mean a lot.

I want to personally thank you for your post. I stopped logging and when I ate something bad I just said "its already done might as well eat bad the whole day" That was the wrong way of thinking. I also starting drinking, I lost my mother suddenly and my day 10 months later so drinking helped me cope. I haven't had a drink in 2 weeks but its a struggle. It's great having support, I really needed to read your post and glad I have a community to help. Thanks again.

First welcome back to the group and my family and I thank you and your husband for service and you for loving and supporting him!
Now down to your post - I had surgery just a few months before you and as we continue to live this life and struggle daily with our food choices it is important to remember why we had the surgery to begin with.
I could say remember everyday is a new day and get back on program, but I know that is not what I want to hear when I struggle. I want to hear I am not alone in this struggle. When you look around you and see everyone eating "normal" and you sit there and best yourself up over everything you eat can feel lonely. You are not alone. I have fallen off the wagon many times and after beating myself up for several days I remember that it is wasted energy. I had to find and remind myself what was important and why I did this. That helps me during these hard times.
So make your mind up to stop beating yourself up and take it one food choice at a time. If you are making bad choices at every meal just start slowly and replace one meal with a rny approved meal. Then make it two meals and so on.
Finally start logging your food. It shows the truth in black and white. While you document your food - log your emotions and stresses during meals. When I did that I leaned that my issue was stopping at gas stations during work. I drive all day and when I would stop to use the restroom I would buy junk! I changed that habit by keeping good Snacks in my truck. The temptation was tough and I was not always successful at resisting, but recognizing your triggers is a big part of the war!
Good luck and remember we are all here and behind you!!