When Is Enough Enough?

[HotButterFly 981]

I'm barely out of the 200s mark, and at 4'11 my "ideal" weight is near 120 lbs. I never intended on getting that small in the first place. I looooove a curvy body. I was thinking more around 140, but I'm starting to think that with 30 more lbs lost I'll be ok. That will put me around the 170s... I don't know, maybe my self-image is distorted. I look in the mirror and its almost like another face is looking back at me...

[chasingadream 1,311]

I understand your thought process....I am 4 pounds away from 199 and am in awe of the loss so far. I have my goal listed as 140 because that is what I am SUPPOSED to be at 5'4" according to the charts. Never thought I could get there since I never have been able to before...but some days I wonder.

People now comment on how much I've lost and tell me I'm good where I am...some are floored when I tell them I have another 65 to lose. Who knows if I can or want to get there. Guess I will just take it one day at a time to see where my weight loss leads me.

You are not alone....it is such a process...and not an easy one!

[SandyM 1,956]

Totally agree. I have 138 listed as my goal due to BMI charts. I'm pretty happy where I am right now.

I will continue trying cuz I can , but if I don't lose any more, I will be content with where I am. I'm focusing on exercise, Protein and Water. Hubby and I are going to try carb cycling for a month or 2 starting march 1st. Kind of like a big hoorah, lol. He would like to lose 8 more lbs and of course I'm going to try for the last 17.

[HotButterFly 981]

Good luck to you both. Maybe I'm bigger than I think I am. Anywhoo, I'll let my clavicles dictate when enough is enough. (I don't have them yet, but they are the one body part I'm looking forward to the most!)

[cheryl2586 3,053]

My doctor told me that 170 would be manageable for me and it was not about the BMI charts. Any weight loss increases you to be healthy. Just do what you feel is right for you. Don't worry about what the chart says.

[HealthyNewMe 1,935]

Good luck to you both. Maybe I'm bigger than I think I am. Anywhoo, I'll let my clavicles dictate when enough is enough. (I don't have them yet, but they are the one body part I'm looking forward to the most!)

That's funny! A good friend of mine list 100+ pounds, and I remember her saying that she cried like a baby when she felt her clavicle for the first time in decades.

[Bandista 7,466]

I like a curvy strong body, too. Versus the linebacker feeling! I will know when I get there -- I am 5'6" (used to be 5'7") and have 148 as a goal because that's exactly 100 pounds from where I started at 248. I'm in fourteens now and than will be a twelve -- cannot really imagine less than ten as I think that would be way too scrawny for me. Like you say, Sandy, I'm trying to focus on exercise and a healthy lifestyle. And I want great legs back if possible, and arms that don't scare me in the mirror. Even when I was thin my arms never measured up. Trying to remember to love myself just as I am while I'm working to improve -- that's a balance, to be sure. So I will take this opportunity to thank myself for who I am and what I've done so far.

[SillyAuntDi 1,610]

My doc and I have not discussed a goal weight. I have 180 listed as my goal because it seems reasonable to me. A first goal, so to speak...I figure when I hit that, the doc and I can talk.

When people ask me how much more I am planning to lose, I laugh and say "until I'm done."

I personally would like to keep some curves...I got big bones...no really, I do...and want to keep some meat on them.

Edited February 17, 2014 by SillyAuntDi

[Julie norton 2,850]

I like a curvy strong body, too. Versus the linebacker feeling! I will know when I get there -- I am 5'6" (used to be 5'7") and have 148 as a goal because that's exactly 100 pounds from where I started at 248. I'm in fourteens now and than will be a twelve -- cannot really imagine less than ten as I think that would be way too scrawny for me. Like you say, Sandy, I'm trying to focus on exercise and a healthy lifestyle. And I want great legs back if possible, and arms that don't scare me in the mirror. Even when I was thin my arms never measured up. Trying to remember to love myself just as I am while I'm working to improve -- that's a balance, to be sure. So I will take this opportunity to thank myself for who I am and what I've done so far.

Thank you for reminding me to try everyday to love my self more heck. Some days I don't even like me. But mostly I do because I do know I am a good person and I try hard to do what is right ❤️

[jerbear 17]

BMI calculators are just guides. If you are healthy and your doctor and you are ok with where you are don't worry about it. Although I remember how excited I was when I went from 246 to 170 and in a smaller size. I said I was ok with that size. However my band continued to work and I got down to 136. Unfortunately I started having problems (that's another discussion topic) and had to have all the Fluid taken out. I gained a few pounds and now that everything is resolved am trying to get back to or closer to my lower weight.