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Ugh. I am about to lose it on family... And friends.

I am so sick of them telling me I don't eat enough. I'm losing weight too fast. I need to eat more veggies. My husband telling people. No she doesn't eat anymore. Not enough to keep a bird alive. Sorry I had one sancho (homemade) and not 3!

I think my insurance company paid a dr a whole lot of money to help me manage this. I have lost 58 pounds since sept and still weight 165. At 5'5" I can still stand to drop a few more pounds.

Guess I should have put this in the rant post. Just had to vent.

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I'm told that I look anorexic. Closer to chubby.

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I think what may be happening is that folks are used to seeing you a certain size and since you've lost alot of weight, they are just doing a compare. You look like you are eating nothing because compared to what you used to eat...you are eating nothing. Same for your size. You look so much smaller than you used to...therefore...you are too thin.


I hear the same thing...yet I'm still clinically overweight. I'm just so much smaller than I was so people think of me as thin when I am far from it.


Just let those comments roll off your back...they really are compliments so think of them as such.


Congrats on your success.

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Thanks. I just get so annoyed feeling like I have to constantly fight for what I am doing. I haven't weighed what I do now since I was 12!!! 30 years!

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quit defending yourself. and it would be a okay to tell your husband to please stop talking about me to other ppl. I had to tell my daughter to stop introducing me and than adding onto my name," and she has a lapband." I have told those I wanted to tell and I will keep ppl up to date .it isn't their job. the statement what happens in vegas stays in vegas is the same in my household. whatever happens inside my home stays there. I won't tell your life story don't tell mine.

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I can totally relate to what you're saying. Most of the time, I get the "You don't eat enough. You need to eat more." line from my family. My mother even asked me once if I had talked to my surgeon to make sure that I wasn't losing weight too fast. I have seen him every couple of weeks since my surgery. I'm pretty sure he would say something if he felt I was losing too fast not to mention the fact that, if that were the case, he wouldn't dare put anymore Fluid in my band. Funny thing is, if I decide to treat myself to something special, I hear "You're not supposed to be eating that, are you?" Ugh.

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I can totally relate to what you're saying. Most of the time, I get the "You don't eat enough. You need to eat more." line from my family. My mother even asked me once if I had talked to my surgeon to make sure that I wasn't losing weight too fast. I have seen him every couple of weeks since my surgery. I'm pretty sure he would say something if he felt I was losing too fast not to mention the fact that, if that were the case, he wouldn't dare put anymore Fluid in my band. Funny thing is, if I decide to treat myself to something special, I hear "You're not supposed to be eating that, are you?" Ugh.

YES!!!!!!!!

They had ice cream tonight.... I put 2 tablespoons of ice cream in 3 oz of almond milk for a milkshake... Oh I'm telling your doctor... Well guess what he already knows I like ice cream. He says count it in your calories and don't complain if you don't lose!

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