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I thought this was a good thing

totaloser

By totaloser, in Rants & Raves

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teacherlady2133    258

teacherlady2133
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I am reading back on some old post and wanted to give a quick update. I had surgery 4/28/14 and am currently down 81 since surgery and 125 since beginning of journey.

It has been a huge adjustment in relationships and to be honest it seems to be all my issue.

I do not know how to take compliments from others. I do not know how to be the center of attention when I now enter a room, not based on anything except my weight change.

Friends and family have adjusted to the new me and are trying to find normal, but I struggle with the new relationships.

I know they still do not get it. Even now when the changes are very noticeable. They are supportive and kind and loving. They do not get my own struggles with the reality of it all. I do not know how to not be the Fat sister, friend or daughter.

I am learning and happy to have them there with me and I just let go of any comments or statements that are said in love but miss the mark.

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