How can I support my Awesome husband?

[MrsAwesome 0]

My dear hubby and I have been married for nearly 20 years, and he is my EVERYTHING!

He had band-to-sleeve revision in mid-November 2013. His goal is to lose 100 lbs. In the eight weeks following surgery, he lost 55 lbs. But in the past 3 weeks, the scale is not moving. I tell him all the time how great he is doing, but I can tell he is starting to get discouraged.

I'm not sure how to best support him during the inevitable 'stalls'. I figure this group can give me the best advice - - so.... what do you recommend?

[cherbear33 288]

Offer to help take measurements & remind him that sometimes when it does not show on the scale he very well may be losing inches as his body tries to catch up to the amount of weight he has lost so far. Also kindly remind him that stalls are common but that as long as he stays on track the weight will sbegin to move again & to just be patient. Remind him that this is not a race to the finish line but a life long journey & that we will all get to our goal at our own pace! I hope this is helpful to you & I wish your husband the best success with his sleeve journey! You can also tell him to come on & check us out here @ bariatric pal if he feels he needs more support or encouragement!

[Fullofitx3 146]

That's so awesome how supportive you are, keep going with the encouragement and stay positive, as others have said stalls are common, I think the scale is only part of it, the other part is how you feel and how much better clothes fit. Losing 55lbs is nothing to sneeze at.

[MrsAwesome 0]

@cherbear33 - thanks for mentioning measurements. That is something that he has never done but might be helpful when the scale isn't moving. I just wish i had thought to take his starting measurements!! Snap!

[Inactive Profile 104]

Offer him some love, I lose a 1 pound everytime we we have adult time

[Madam Reverie 2,958]

Oh, it is sooooo all about watching the measurements change during stalls...

Don't let him step on the scales. Lots of distraction required.

I was bordering on horrified after a huge stall when I finally measured my waistline. I'd lost 6 inches. I kid you not!

Lots of fun activities to pass the time

[MrsAwesome 0]

@dreambig - Thanks for the advice. As he keeps losing weight, there has been lots of 'adult time'

We hid the scale today and agreed to weigh only once a week. I'm more stressed over that than he is. (Since his surgery, I've been losing weight too.)

Our new habits include:

1) splitting Entrees when we eat out

2) keeping lots of fresh fruit around to snack on

3) giving the girl scouts a donation, instead of buying Cookies

I've never been a good cook, but I have tried a few healthy recipes and my kitchen skills are improving

[jpov821 79]

You're an awesome wife!! Best of luck to you and your husband!!!

[Branmuffin 190]

Wow kudos to you for being so helpful to your sleeved hubby! I think having nuts and Jerky and deli meat as well as cheese around might help him better than high sugar fruit right now. Id also suggest exercising with him and taking walks. Stalls happen. I'm in one now as well. I get discouraged but also get more upset when my hubby brings it up. I'd say talk about it if he wants to but also be willing to entirely ignore it and congratulate him big time once its over.

[belunos 93]

Have him increase his calories and Protein for a couple of days. That's what broke my stall.

[MrsAwesome 0]

Thanks to all for the supportive response. Looks like the scale is beginning to move again. After five weeks of no change, he dropped three pounds this week. He increased Proteins and upped his treadmill time. I'm so proud of him!

The journey with him has made me so much more aware of the commitment that it takes to be successful after weight loss surgery. I have respect for each of you and the supportive community that you are creating here. Good Luck!