Double Minded /Confused

[pinkylaty 42]

My surgery is on the 4th of feb and today I had a meeting with my Doctor who explained the risks involved and how i need to be totally committed.I am sooo double minded and confused now.He told me that lapband is not the most favoured surgery nd people do get complications.I am paying from my own pocket and dont know what to do.I dont want to end up as a failure or get stuck with a complication.All advice will be highly appreciated.

[Leepers 1,195]

You can end up failing at any of the weight loss surgeries. You do need to be prepared to change your eating habits, but I think once you have surgery you'll be ok. It helps shift your mind. You're not gonna go through that just to fail. Plus, as a self pay, I would be even more determined. That's a lot of money.

As far as complications, every surgery has potential complications and doctors are required by law to tell you about them.

We all went through these doubts and fears. Just keep on keepin on. Decide you will be a success and follow the doctors orders and you will be successful! Best wishes!

[pinkylaty 42]

Thank you ,I feel better )))Bless u

[terrydumont46 1,954]

i think my story might be of some help. remember we are all overweight because we all have eating issues. our brains are wired differently. i orginally went into surgery to have a gastric by pass. this surgery was deemed the most beneficial for me due to my many health issues including diabetis. i came out of surgery with a lapband. i didn't know much about the band just the mechanics. i was so disappointed. i cried in recovery. but as the months have gone by and i have seen where i am having the trouble even with the band i belive now the good Lord had my back. i think i would have failed at the gastric bypass, being one of those that lost the wt. quickly but than gained it back. the band keeps me in check. even when my poor unbanded brain wants junk food. it will keep me in check for the rest of my life. i can have it adjusted as the doctor and i see fit. the band and my type of eating disorder which was Portion Control is working for me. i am now a happy bandster. glad things went this way. i know i will be successful. why? the band controls the amount of food i can eat where as the by pass or sleeve does not. i know my personality, i would have been able to eat around those two surgeries. i hope you find this helpful. my advice is to research everything there is to know about all 3 surgeries. not just the sucess stories but the failures too. good luck on this road to skinniness

[cheryl2586 3,053]

All surgeries can have complications even something as simple as toe surgery can end up in big complications. Whenever you are put under anesthesia you are at risk for complications. The benefits far out weigh the risks.

[mrsto 2,925]

Whatever you doctor says, you have to go with the choice you can live with. I was scheduled for a bypass, but freaked out and cancelled it 10 days before surgery. The thought of rerouting my God given plumbing didn't sit well with me. And my next door neighbor had the bypass, and after a few years, ended up having the band put over it. My sister's coworker had the sleeve, and is slowly gaining a lot of weight back. She can't eat much at one time, but grazes on crap all day long. Imagine doing that after have 75% of your stomach removed. Scary stuff!

I'm not trying to push you in any one direction. Only to say that compliance is key with any of these surgeries. Many of us are really good at it in the beginning, but as life moves on, old habits rear their ugly face. Banded, bypassed, sleeved.....whichever, we still have to fight the fight. Do as much research as you possibly can, and make an educated choice on the one you can live with. It is true that the aftercare on the other surgeries is nil compared to the band. But then again, the band is reversible, and the choice is available to revise to something later, should unrepairable complications set it. It's a lot to think about, but it's most important that the decision be yours, and not what someone else "thinks" you should do.

Good luck!

[SandyM 1,956]

As said above, any surgery has complication risks. I work with a girl who had GB and I'm watching her put her weight back on. Could it happen to me post band? Of course, if I don't follow the band rules. I didn't expect a quick fix, but this was the least invasive of the surgeries and I'm glad I took the leap.

[pinkylaty 42]

Thank you guys