Did you keep it a secret?

[LindafromFlorida 1,542]

I told only the people I am closest to--- a few very close friends, and my 2 sisters that I am closest to. The only people at work who know are my boss and the HR person. As far as I am concerned, it is no one's business. I am a supervisor and my employees know I needed to take a week off for medical leave. I did not offer details. I do not need anyone's opinions. I do not need them telling me their "horror" stories. Sometimes I wish I could talk about it more openly, but that is what this forum is for, right?

Thank goodness we can talk when we want here and shut it off when we tire. Most people here are supportive, not judgmental. I agree, I did not want to hear horror stories.

[kidrn72 85]

I never kept it a secret, but I am an open book for the most part. I'm a nurse and if I didn't tell my coworkers they would have thought I had a serious illness or something. I like to educate so I don't mind talking about it either. I feel I got more support with being upfront that I thought I would. I had only a few negative comments which were from family. You might be surprised how much support you might get.

[andreamy7 55]

I think it is up to you what you are comfortable sharing. Lets face it, as chubby/fat/plus size women we have been looked down on by someone at some time...so protecting yourself from more emotional drama is just that-protection and avoiding possible judgement if you feel you will be perceived that way. I did tell my man and my mom. I asked my mom to keep it quiet, of course, she told a friend or two. However, almost all the women in my family have had botox, facelifts, boob jobs, Lipo and some have had more than others. I see it no differently-I may tell them now that its already done. I think its a personal decision.

[Allira86 0]

Both my mother in law and my own mum are very supportive, but hubby sees it as the cheats way out. Tells me, you haven't even tried.

I'm a shift working nurse who is also studying full time, do I look like I have time to go to the gym 5 times a week? I can't just eat Snacks at my desk or eat my Breakfast at my desk, I stand up90% of my day ????

[nursejames 4]

I am heading on the plane now for surgery tomorrow. I have shared this with my parents, husband and sibling. I was really upset to find out today that all my friends have known for the past 2 weeks. My husband told a friend, the friend told his wife and it went from there. I am hurt by 2 things. My husband blabbing something that wasn't his news to share, and my friends for not saying anything the last two weeks. Not the way I anticipated this all rolling out. Feeling shitty about it all. Damit!!!

[taylokat 180]

I am heading on the plane now for surgery tomorrow. I have shared this with my parents, husband and sibling. I was really upset to find out today that all my friends have known for the past 2 weeks. My husband told a friend, the friend told his wife and it went from there. I am hurt by 2 things. My husband blabbing something that wasn't his news to share, and my friends for not saying anything the last two weeks. Not the way I anticipated this all rolling out. Feeling shitty about it all. Damit!!!

I'm sorry to hear that but try not to let it bother you. Maybe it's for the best because sometimes it's very difficult for me to not be able to talk about it with my friends. Wishing you a speedy recovery!

[LindafromFlorida 1,542]

I am heading on the plane now for surgery tomorrow. I have shared this with my parents, husband and sibling. I was really upset to find out today that all my friends have known for the past 2 weeks. My husband told a friend, the friend told his wife and it went from there. I am hurt by 2 things. My husband blabbing something that wasn't his news to share, and my friends for not saying anything the last two weeks. Not the way I anticipated this all rolling out. Feeling shitty about it all. Damit!!!

That is why I respected my husband's wish that I not tell we had the sleeve. It has become similar to "gossiping about you". Let it go, get your surgery and REJOICE. Cheers to a better life, and keep your thoughts positive!

[HatheryOnHerWay 603]

I have told a very select few people. I am an impatient person, and I just cant stand the thought of having to explain the surgery and how it works to 8 million people every day.

[LindafromFlorida 1,542]

We were with our neighbors last night several hours for the Superbowl game, who have no idea we were sleeved. The topic of the night was our diet, what we eat, what we drink, and it went on all night. Damnation I am sorry I even told them we were dieting. I have said before, glad we only have to discuss the sleeve with 2 relatives and a nurse friend! I thank my husband for making the decision to keep it private!!!!!

[Memily 86]

I have only told a handful of people...mostly family. When people ask me what I am doing I way healthy choices, small portions, and high Protein. It is my dirty little secret....

[kidrn72 85]

I feel that by having it out in the open I am more accountable. People know so they watch, knowing that keeps me on track:)

[LindafromFlorida 1,542]

I am only accountable to myself. Our neighbor chided me last night about a tsp. of shredded cheese on the salsa (she made it), should I really have it if I am dieting. God knows what I would go through if I advertised the sleeve, too many friends watch what we eat already. But then I am 66 years old and went through this with my husband to live healthy and it is working with the help of the sleeve. Bless you all.

[re14768 72]

I really don't want to tell anyone besides my hubby, sister & mom..I told them to please not tel anyone..my job I haven't told either..don't even know how I will go about requesting time off..can't believe how difficult it is. I may have my procedure late this month..please advice welcome,

[SnohoGal98296 371]

Regarding telling your work, you are under no obligation to tell them anything more than "I am having a medical procedure that requires X weeks of recovery, thank you for your concern and kindness but I would rather not discuss the details" if they give you any trouble, have a Doctor write you a note, with no specifics, just the medical procedure with X weeks off. I am a office type person so I am having surgery on a Thurs, and not coming back till the next Monday. A total of 8 work days off.

[LindafromFlorida 1,542]

I really don't want to tell anyone besides my hubby, sister & mom..I told them to please not tel anyone..my job I haven't told either..don't even know how I will go about requesting time off..can't believe how difficult it is. I may have my procedure late this month..please advice welcome,

I have heard people say they went and hernia repair and most of us seem to have a hernia with this surgery. That stops the talking when you won't tell what procedure you are havin and it most likely will be the truth. We did not tell anyone but our daughter, niece and nurse friend. Makes life so much easier and don't want to discuss all this surgery stuff with everyone. Good luck!