Mommy dearest, the destoyer....

[kyethra 0]

my MIL is nicer to me than my mother... my mother has definite issues. When I want support I go to supportive people, like some good friends, or DH. Some people you can't blow bubbles around cause they carry pins with them.

[BJean 16]

That is a cute expression: you can't blow bubbles around some people because they carry pins with them! I like that.

[Boo Boo Kitty 3]

my MIL is nicer to me than my mother... my mother has definite issues. When I want support I go to supportive people, like some good friends, or DH. Some people you can't blow bubbles around cause they carry pins with them.

I love this too!

I have since talked to my mom, and tried to be agreeable. Right now it just surface "niceness". I hope to get over it soon!

[Wheetsin 714]

Our parents and in particular our mothers are behind about 96% of our neuroses. Fact.

[Lap_dancer 8]

Guys I just need to vent. I have had a horrible day, all because of my mom!

I spent the day cleaning out the closets and such. I was excited as hell, you know! Getting rid of the big girl clothes. Just seconds after telling my mom I was so excited to be getting rid of size freaking 30 clothes, she says "Don't you think it is too soon? What happens if you backslide? I don't think you should get rid of them." She crushed me. This is the woman who just had and RenY last month. She knows how it feels to be fat, and she had to do that???

She has been in competition with me all my life. I hate it. I hater her, sometimes. Why did she have to break my heart...

Competition is a perfect word. That describes my sister and mother. It's never good enough, never as good as this person or that. Always looking for something to pick at. But competition would be very accurate in describing my mother who is 28 years older than I am but never truly found who she is as a person, as a woman. For this I have more pity than anger.

FauxnaifI feel your pain. My mother's like that and so is my husband's. Tell your friends, coworkers, etc. Anyone else! You don't have to have her approval. Get your congratulations and "proud of you"s elsewhere. I learned to do that.

Exactly. I have a friend who is in my balcony. She roots me on and encourages me. She prays for me and we laugh together over the many things that have happened. But I agree with you Fauxnaif, you don't have to have mom's approval.

My sister had been living away from home for over a year. She had lost a lot of weight...came to town..walked in the door at my Mom and Dads, and the first thing Mom said to my sister was "Doesnt look like you've lost that much weight." My sister started crying, she was ready to leave. I couldnt believe she said that to her. WELL...if you've lost 87lbs its about time you got rid of some size 30's! Good for you.. thats awesome.

I FOR ONE AM PROUD OF YOU!! - 2bthinagn

This breaks my heart for you sister. 87 pounds is a lot. I think your mother was more threatened than anything! You have your sister and she has you. Take comfort from that.

[AshevilleEddie 14]

Hmm, I wonder if this tends to be a same-gender parent issue? My mother would have been worried about me getting banded, but would have been 110% supportive (sadly, we lost her 2 1/2 years ago). My dad on the other hand (still alive), will probably be like "Oh, ok." or something like that. If he notices at all, he probably won't admit it. He's pretty much been that way all my life. After 40+ years, I've finally come to realize that's just the way he is and he probably doesn't mean anything negative by it. Either way, I've also learned to just not give a rat's ass what he thinks! :lalala:

[Lap_dancer 8]

Our parents and in particular our mothers are behind about 96% of our neuroses. Fact.

I believe it.