BethinPA 305 Posted February 17, 2014 Cant wait to hear..Haha So I made a huge deal out of my excess skin before the nekkid phase. Then he was like....I dunno, women your age,have had kids etc., just look that way. Obviously I had more excess skin than a typical woman but it was clearly a bigger deal in my head than it was in reality. Well, we got to the nekkid phase this weekend, and the extra skin didn't appear to bother him a bit! It was so hard for me to bite my tongue and not ask him if it bothered him, because I didn't want to plant that seed of thought in his mind. So I'm faking it until I make it in the confidence department! 5 BellaHugz, Madam Reverie, CowgirlJane and 2 others reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
CowgirlJane 14,260 Posted February 18, 2014 I think you should put it out of your mind the best you can. I am sure it bothers you way more than him. I once read that women will never achieve equality till the day they can walk down the street with a big gut and bald head and still think they are hot stuff. Yeah, it's a joke but there is some truth. Confidence and self acceptance, self love ARE sexy. Woohoo BTW!!! BethinPA, on 17 Feb 2014 - 09:21, said: Cant wait to hear..Haha So I made a huge deal out of my excess skin before the nekkid phase. Then he was like....I dunno, women your age,have had kids etc., just look that way. Obviously I had more excess skin than a typical woman but it was clearly a bigger deal in my head than it was in reality. Well, we got to the nekkid phase this weekend, and the extra skin didn't appear to bother him a bit! It was so hard for me to bite my tongue and not ask him if it bothered him, because I didn't want to plant that seed of thought in his mind. So I'm faking it until I make it in the confidence department! 2 jcrsmom and BethinPA reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
BellaHugz 331 Posted February 18, 2014 Oh my gosh I just baptised my computer laughing so hard!! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Indigo1991 1,612 Posted February 18, 2014 Cant wait to hear..Haha So I made a huge deal out of my excess skin before the nekkid phase. Then he was like....I dunno, women your age,have had kids etc., just look that way. Obviously I had more excess skin than a typical woman but it was clearly a bigger deal in my head than it was in reality. Well, we got to the nekkid phase this weekend, and the extra skin didn't appear to bother him a bit! It was so hard for me to bite my tongue and not ask him if it bothered him, because I didn't want to plant that seed of thought in his mind. So I'm faking it until I make it in the confidence department! BethinPA, I applaud you!!!! Good for you and thanks for sharing. It gives all of us hope because all too often we lose confidence and sight of all the good things about ourselves when we are overweight. Sometimes it takes a while to regain that.... Your man sounds like he's interested in you, all of you. So keep faking it until your confidence catches up with how he sees you. I still have a Naked Hottie around who thinks I am the bees knees, wrinkles and saggy bits and all :-)))) 2 BethinPA and Madam Reverie reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
BethinPA 305 Posted February 19, 2014 I think you should put it out of your mind the best you can. I am sure it bothers you way more than him. I once read that women will never achieve equality till the day they can walk down the street with a big gut and bald head and still think they are hot stuff. Yeah, it's a joke but there is some truth. Confidence and self acceptance, self love ARE sexy. Woohoo BTW!!! BethinPA, on 17 Feb 2014 - 09:21, said: Thanks so much for the support, CGJ! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
BethinPA 305 Posted February 19, 2014 BethinPA, I applaud you!!!! Good for you and thanks for sharing. It gives all of us hope because all too often we lose confidence and sight of all the good things about ourselves when we are overweight. Sometimes it takes a while to regain that.... Your man sounds like he's interested in you, all of you. So keep faking it until your confidence catches up with how he sees you. I still have a Naked Hottie around who thinks I am the bees knees, wrinkles and saggy bits and all :-)))) Thank you for the support, and thank God for Naked Hotties!! 1 Indigo1991 reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Oregondaisy 2,021 Posted March 1, 2014 I never told anyone until we were serious and I have had 2 serious bf's besides the one I am seeing now. I don't have a big skin issue, but I have a lot of restriction, and men don't really like to buy my dinner when I will barely eat. I feel after awhile, I have to tell them, because it's pretty obvious that I can not eat a normal sized meal, even after almost 5 years. I don't think if I did have a skin issue, that I would say a word if I had already had plastics. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites