My Friends My Journey

[Dee_1111 317]

As you can read my stats on the left over there. I'm Gastric, 4 years out. I wrote about me and my Husband today, which got me to thinking about my friends.

I'll come right and tell you, I'm 54 years young. And you'd think that women my age would be soooo far past bad and catty-like behavior, not so much. My friends and I have been sitting around one table or another, or on vacation or at a Spa, for 15 years b*tching about how we should or gotta lose weight. Then!!!..I was obliterated, by my Doctor, who diagnosed me as' Morbidly Obese' and very unhealthy. The Nerve. I had a denial file (that's on another post).

So long story short, I had the surgery. Didn't consult friends, no need. Just family. It was hard doing all that research over the 4 years of contemplating this surgery and not asking their advice, but this was something I wanted to be just MINE (and my husbands), and if I failed at it, I just didn't want to go threw everything it takes to make your gal pals know your ok and life goes on. I considered this a private matter. Much as I love my friends, together we are 'Drama Queens'. Its what we do..lol..drink wine, talk sh*t, check out the latest fashions, make plans for a vaca or GNO's (Girls Night Out) ..blah blah blah. Basically any social thing we can think of to be together.

Wellllllll...Surgery complete, time to tell 'The Girls'. hmmmm? little bit of a shock at first..expected. Ya know??? there's always one in a crowd that rots the rest of us. I was waiting to see who it would be. And ya know what?? Its always the one you don't expect..hmmm! I really didn't expect ANY backlash from any of them, were friends for Christ sake. AND there it came, " I suppose now that your on your way to becoming a skinny b*tch, you cant hang with us"?..I was prepared, yay me. I was hoping I wouldn't have to use my arsenal of defensive scenerio's, So my come back was.."Girllll I don't remember our friendship being based on BBW (Big Beautiful Women) Club??? You betta' check yoursel!f"..and that put and end to it, thank goodness. We resume are b*tching about other stuff. So, I never had to get rid of friends, thank goodness, because if it came right down to it, I would have. My surgery means more to me that any MEAN friend. I'm hoping that all of you have supportive friends and fam. But a lot of us don't. So prepare yourself before hand, with as much dignity and tact as you can muster, just in case you have a MEAN family/friend moment ..thanx for listening.

[melmommy04 23]

First off. ... Woman you do NOT look 54! Holy moly!

Second. I think I follow you bc you are so straight forward. That inspires me!

Third. I'm worried only slightly about my friendships. All of my friends are smaller than me. Like as in size 0, 1, 10.... I have very few friends that I regularly socialize with who struggle with being overweight. I'm not at all saying I don't have any. I have plenty. So with that being said, my health, this surgery (whenever it may happen) are of the utmost importance to me.

You nailed it! (:

[Dee_1111 317]

Thanx Jen..I think its worth mentioning..cuz it happens a lot, I watched 'Extemem Makeover" weighloss, and that seemed also to happen to them on that show. So Im assuming its prevalent. & thank you, I might have to update a pic of me, this one was about a year and half ago. still thanx..