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I am so sorry for your loss...my thoughts and prayers are with you. I too had a MC last year although it was before my band, I quit smoking, exercised lightly ate right took my Vitamins but NO ONE and I MEAN NO ONE knows why this happens except for the big man upstairs. My partner too blamed me, that if I quit smoking before I got pregnant I wouldn't have lost it etc...but that is not the reason, I know this now because we sought counseling because we were both grieving badly. I know you hate him right now but trust me I am sure this is just his way of grieving sometimes they NEED someone to blame it on even though it is no ones fault. This happens to so many women, but I now truly believe that everything happens for a reason. I could only suggest maybe seing a grief counselor...they helped us a lot. Hang in there!

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I am so sorry for your loss. I had a miscarriage 6 years ago and was told that 1/3 of all pregnancies end in miscarriage. That no one knows shy, but that it an amazing thing that a baby can grow from 2 cells into a healthy normal baby. Just think of all the things that have to go right for that to happen. Lungs, liver, kidneys, heart...the list goes on and on. I took solace in the fact that there was probably a problem with the fetus. The problem was not caused by anyone or anything it just happens.....a lot. I now have 2 happy, healthy children 3 and 5 years old.

I used to work in a place with mostly women. Within 2 years we had 6 children born by the staff. There were also 3 miscarriages in that same time period. Granted, no one had the band but I don't thinl that has anything to do with it.

You are in my thoughts and prayers,

Lynne

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Phatty, I am so sorry to hear about your loss. I know of no words that could possibly offer you the amount of comfort I'd like you to have, so instead, I'll just give you this hug.

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