How many people took their husband with them?

[BellaHugz 331]

Just curious how many people took their hubby with them? My Hospital allows you to have your spouse with you to stay in the room with you and be your support. Now I have arranged for my hubby to be there to help me get moving and encourage me along the way. But getting closer I am kinda wondering if I should do that? Any advise from those that have or thouse that wish they had would be helpful!

[RJ'S/beginning 5,358]

The only time my hubby was not with me was in the operating room and my seminar...the rest of the time he has been there through it all..Every step of the way...I feel like it has been his journey as well and he needs to see the work that goes into it...he has watched and laughed and cried with me through this entire ride....

I would not have had it any other way!!!!

Edited January 14, 2014 by RJ'S/beginning

[Jhealan 62]

My husband stated every minute. It was great to know my other half was there when I was in and out from meds. He walked the halls with me and knows everything I know about what I went through! Wouldn't have it any other way!

[PdxMan 4,292]

Does a wife qualify?

Having her there was extremely helpful. If not your spouse, be sure it is someone who is OK seeing you at your worst. Also, throw any modesty you have out the door.

In all honesty, this was an event which brought us even closer as this is just one of the basic principals of "For better and for worse". To me, it is a measuring stick of not only your current relationship, but of where it is going. If you are not comfortable sharing this with them, then what else are you not comfortable sharing? What does that say about your marriage?

[Teachamy 1,042]

My husband took the time off from work to take care of the kids, pick them up from school, etc. I didn't know he was planning to do this until a few weeks before the surgery--I had my mom planning to come stay with me. Overall, it was nice to have them both there, except for the first day. I was so groggy from pain meds I was too tired to try to hold a conversation! Otherwise, it was nice to have my husband escort me to the shower and help dry me off--I remember that being a biggie for me. I had a male nurse most of the last 2 days, and as I became less groggy, I became more modest.

[Miss Mac 6,262]

My gentleman friend of seven years took two weeks off work, and was there every step of the way except for the O.R. A couple of years ago, I gave him Medical Power of Attorney to stop all this "but he's not spouse or family" nonsense every time I needed a procedure. He has been so supportive and loving, I could not imagine it any other way. I had said so many nice things about him that the surgeon wanted to meet him!

So, yeah, if your significant other wants to be involved, by all means let them be. I don't think that you will regret having someone there for you when you are medicated and sore.

[magtart 603]

My hubby is disabled and on a feeding tube so he couldn't come. My 20 year old son came with me. He was a great help.

[McButterpants 2,846]

Mr. McButterpants was with me every step of the way with the exception of the prep room and operating room. He was my best advocate - if I said I wanted something, he went asked the staff for it. He was there to listen to post-op instructions so he knew what to do when we left the hospital.

He even went in to talk to the doctor with me for my pre-op and post-op appointments - not that I'm not capable of doing it myself, I figured having two people listen and ask questions was better than one.

[jess9395 5,449]

I'll buck the trend. My husband would have done whatever I wanted, but I just didn't see a reason for him to be there when I was out/under and honestly when I wanted to sleep I just wanted to be alone. He came a few hours post op and stayed a few hours...walked with me, etc. But I had no desire for him to be there overnight either. I sent him home to be with the kids even though my mother in law lives on the property and could have handled them (11 & 15...honestly they could have handled themselves).

Everyone is different with pain/sedation/etc. I knew from previous experience I would rather be left alone to recover. I hate being fussed over, even when I was in labor it was "hands off." He could be there but leave me alone, LOL!

[katesuccess 990]

Yeah, I will be in the bucking the trend and in some of this too. I love my husband and he is wonderful and stepping up to do those things that are needed, but he also tends to second-guess me or try to tell me what he thinks I should be doing--granted it is in a very loving way, but it makes me have to tell him not to do so much or that I know what I'm doing with things sometimes. I also like to be alone and sleep in such a situation, and so I will love knowing he is with me before and for the hours right after, but for me to focus on what I'm feeling and how I'm doing physically will be easy to do if he is not there the whole time asking me how I'm doing! I remember after my knee surgery when I was trying to walk and do the stairs he kept asking me if I was okay or needed help or anything, but I could not answer because I was trying so hard to move through the pain--when I finally did answer I must have sounded crabby and exhausted while gritting my teeth trying not to cry, and I know that I really hurt his feelings. This is one of those things where it will be wonderful to have him sometimes and wonderful to be alone sometimes.

[Carlotta1 401]

My hubby was with me most of the time. He was scared during my surgery that took 4 hours. I had the lapband removed as well. .. But we were told it would take this long ahead of time. He took the day off.. I did not need much help once I got home. However, I did have my daughter with me the 2nd day home as my dr suggested just in case.

[loseitsoon 157]

My husband was with me every step of the way. He was a great help and my biggest supporter. He's as happy as me with the results!

[sweetjam69 20]

My husband was at work, he took off 1/2 days to get the kids off the bus and take care of them (7 kids, 5 at home). My two daughters stay with me the whole way. Husband took care of the kids. He asked me which would I prefer......I honestly told him that since the hospital was 2 1/2 hours away........If something happened at home he would already be there, instead of racing to get home.

[RJ'S/beginning 5,358]

I left a lot out...He was with me when I saw the surgeon each time...He came with me when I had my leak and stayed day and night when I was in the coma...He was not there when I woke up 19 days later he cried so much because of that..he not only stayed with me but he started this little routine that he did every day ..Like brush my hair, make sure I had BO juice on...Cream me up and make sure my lips did not dry out..things like that. He even read me Moby d**k which I had read before, but it entertained me..He took 2 months off because he thought he was going to lose his mind ..But in Dec. he went back to work and for 4 more months he drove almost everyday 1.5 hours to see me even in snow storms....Go home and cook his dinner. work on a much needed project..I needed a new bathtub so he did the entire bathroom over. Looked after the dogs...keep the house in order.( man order ). Paid the bills. Talked to staff when things were not good.Talked and kept in contact with surgeon... even in snow storms he came and was there and we cried together many many times.....He was so tender and caring it was unreal....when I got home finally..He bathed me. washed my hair. cooked for me and dressed me. He did it all..He walked with me and went to the Doctors for me....

He did that for another 5 months almost...Even today he watches me and looks out for me...He went way out of the ordinary for me..The staff at the hospital said they never saw anything like it in their entire careers ....That says a lot..........

Brought me my first tea at the end of March which the nurse said I could try and I nearly died it was so bitter...He made sure I had TV which is very expensive to rent here weekly and he even rounded up a couple of friends, drove to their houses, picked them up and brought them to see me...1 lived 45 minutes from our house

So many things he did so I would feel his love and feel safe...because i was scared to death.......

Edited January 14, 2014 by RJ'S/beginning

[lauri407 29]

My husband will be there with me in the morning, but because this is the first week back at college and he just started going, he's going to leave once he has to go for his classes. He has a break in between classes and will be able to relax a little at home, take care of the dogs, etc. He will be back in the evening to spend the evening with me. The next morning he'll most likely leave early so he can run home and then make his classes. I have my mom coming in the day after my surgery to spend time in the hospital with me and to take me home when I get discharged.

I've tried to round up a few friends in advance to call, text, and even visit me if they want when I know I'll be there alone. While I'd love for my husband to be with me the whole time, I can't imagine how exhausting that would be, not to mention stressful. The nurse in the seminar in the hospital said that the time in the hospital is just that. It's not a vacation where I can rest and enjoy the time (maybe if I were in Mexico..lol). I will also have my iPad there to keep me busy.