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My husband must think this surgery = no stomach at all!



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Apparently since having my surgery I am invisible. I go ahead and make dinner a little early because my husband has to head to work. I have my dinner after he leaves so I can eat slowly without interruption. Tonight we are having chicken breast (which I'm able to ground up) and my daughter and him have noodles with it. So he is chowing down on his meal and I turn to him and asked him " you made sure to set aside some chicken for me right?" and his response "um no I didn't know you wanted me to" really?? what am I invisible? just because I had a large portion of my stomach removed doesn't mean I don't have a stomach at all. I do need to eat to survive. This is the second time this week he has done this, takes all the food, even after I tell him to take what he wants but to save some so I have something to eat later. Everything goes in one ear and out the other with him. So glad I asked him mid eating if he saved me any. So he proceeded to set aside his half eaten chicken for me. :rolleyes:

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Maybe you should start plating out the food for them or making just say 3 chicken breasts so your family knows one for each of you.

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I suggest getting your food separated first before laying it on the table or otherwise giving Conan access to it.

I was with relatives over Christmas. My niece stopped and got Chinese for 8. I was being my usual restrained self and waited until most everyone got their portions. When it was my turn most was gone except for the General Tsos which was sitting in front of her husband. He was eating right out of the carton and acted suprised that anyone needed any. He made me come over and fish some pieces out while he glared at me. Reminded of a scene out out of 1,000,000 B.C. :angry: :D

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I suggest getting your food separated first before laying it on the table or otherwise giving Conan access to it.

I was with relatives over Christmas. My niece stopped and got Chinese for 8. I was being my usual restrained self and waited until most everyone got their portions. When it was my turn most was gone except for the General Tsos which was sitting in front of her husband. He was eating right out of the carton and acted suprised that anyone needed any. He made me come over and fish some pieces out while he glared at me. Reminded of a scene out out of 1,000,000 B.C. :angry: :D

Omg, how horrible!!

Yah i'll have to not be so laid back about dinner time anymore. I'm just use to letting my husband get what he wants and in the past he has always been good about setting food aside for me but since getting the surgery he acts like I no longer need to eat at all.

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I suggest getting your food separated first before laying it on the table or otherwise giving Conan access to it.

I was with relatives over Christmas. My niece stopped and got Chinese for 8. I was being my usual restrained self and waited until most everyone got their portions. When it was my turn most was gone except for the General Tsos which was sitting in front of her husband. He was eating right out of the carton and acted suprised that anyone needed any. He made me come over and fish some pieces out while he glared at me. Reminded of a scene out out of 1,000,000 B.C. :angry: :D

this is so funny! I catch my husband staring at my food all the time...he will not share a meal with me bc he knows he can take the left overs to work with him. lOL BTW I'm am really protective of my meals..... :P

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Maybe you should start plating out the food for them or making just say 3 chicken breasts so your family knows one for each of you.

I've learned that I have to just prepare enough for 1 meal or my husband will eat everything. He's lucky I will even cook anything anymore. LOL

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I would make him cook his own meals for a week or so and then see if he could remember to be a little more considerate.

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Pull your meal out and set the rest out for your family. I honestly have lost my desire to eat a bunch of different foods anymore and sometimes find cooking for my family and just picking or not eating what they are having at all.

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I have to set mine aside and be very clear about leftovers. And they still get taken, more frequently than I'd like.

On the other hand it is hard to eat with my family because they all eat so much! And my husband says it's hard to eat with me because how little I eat makes him feel guilty.

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